i dont know how to take this i cheated on him a year ago and just told him, because he overheard from someone else.... he is always asking who im with what i did but we arent going out.... i want him back and i think that he wants to be with me again but i dont know how to read his signs. one minute he is mad and the next he doesnt know what to do. and he wants us to be better, but doesnt know if we can... we talk or see each other everyday and he knows that im sorry and i made a huge mistake. he also knows that i love him and want to be with him what do i do?
2006-12-08 08:54:31 · 5 answers · asked by Redneck Woman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you cheated then you hurt him. He may be trying to get back at you for what you did or even just deciding if what you did can be forgiven. One thing to remember a "break" is just the first step to a "break up" On rare occasions the person will come back... but it all depends on him and how badly you really hurt him. I mean not only did you cheat on him but you kept the sharade up for an entire year. I wen't through something similar but he did it to me, sorta, and I forgave him. I guess it depends on the person.
What you should do is make how you feel known 100%. Sit down and have an adult convo but mention that you will give him all the time he needs if thats what you have to do. Tell him to choose what is best for him. Tell him that his feeligs are what matter most to you now and if he needs to find where his heart lies you will wait. Let him know you know what you did then was wrong and you know that he will have a hard time trusting you again, but all you can do is try to make thigs better. Only problem is he will NEVER forget... even if he forgives you. And also that will be the defigning part of your relatioship. Expect to have to work 100x harder and fight a hell of alot at first. Expect him to be very inquisitive and expect things to be extremely rocky. Expect him to trust you very little for a long time and expect him to bring it up alot of the times you fight. If you can get past the first 6 months after that (if he doese decide to take you back) then it will START to go back to normal. But that will always be something that is on his mind.
If it is meant to be... it will work out
2006-12-08 09:06:08 · answer #1 · answered by xxkittenluvxx143 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to repair the trust after a sexual betrayal. It sounds as if he is going to continue being suspicious of where you go and who you are with...and who knows when or if that will ever end. Consider it a lesson learned, and the next time you are committed to someone you care about, don't cheat. I've been cheated on, and I continued to doubt my partner's ability to be trusted long after the betrayal. We tried to put it back together but I was never able to trust him fully again. You would be wise to start over with someone else and do it right from the start. I don't blame him for being suspicious...if it happened a year ago, you never told him, and now he found out from someone else, so you admitted it, that doesn't make you look honest at all.
2006-12-08 09:02:36 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly you have to earn his trust again after all you cheated for what ever reason, you decided to ruin his trust in you. i tell men all the time the same thing. if you love him and he truely loves you it will work out some how but if it wasn't meant to be it won't
2006-12-08 08:58:41 · answer #3 · answered by kathy c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No love here...just co-dependant complacently...move on and get counseling!
2006-12-08 08:57:31 · answer #4 · answered by Win 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry just try to work it out.
AND GOOD LUCK!!!!!
2006-12-08 11:41:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋