Help Me Please?

Question

What can help me cope with the death of my father
I already go to a therapyst( i think that is how you spell it)
I found out this morning and i am 14

my parents "were" divorced and i live with my mom aand my dad , they think (detectives, emt's) he commited suicide
he was 38

Answer 1

DT,

I am very sorry about this. When I found out about my father's death it was the hardest days of my life right after that. I am really, really sorry about your loss.

You have started the right way, by seeing a therapist. Talk about it to him and to anyone else that you can trust who would know something about this. This probably means not your friends. As well-meaning as they might be, they are not old enough to be able to help you through this.

Where's your mom in all this? If you have access to her, talk to her about it, too. There's nothing like going through something like this together to help each other. She most likely needs to talk about it, too.

Don't be afraid of your emotions. Sometimes they are so strong that you think you can't stand it, that you won't be able to survive because they're never going to go away and you'll never get better, but that's not true. They may last for a long time--they will certainly last for longer than your friends will think they should, but they wil not last forever and you will live through them.

Most people give others about six weeks to "get over it," but it takes longer than that. Let it take as long as you need to. Don't be impatient with yourself because it takes so long. It takes as long as it takes. Understand that generally, others won't understand you, and forgive them. You can only talk to them as long as they will let you. That's why your mom may be the best one to talk to long-term about it. She will understand.

Go ahead and feel what you feel. Go ahead and cry, even if it's in private (the bathroom is a great place for this, I have found), and do it for as long as you need to. Don't judge yourself, don't tell yourself that you "should be over it by now." Just let the feelings be as they are for as long as they are. It will be very hard, but it won't damage you. And besides, your father was worth it. Talk. Feel. Live.

Answer 2

This rings a bell in my memory of ways I was once approximately two months in the past. (My ex was once 2 timing me which I learned handiest after he dumped me) Anyway, you have got to recognise that you just didn't deserve a man like him. There are billions of different men available in the market and from them I'm definite that there's any person who would not cheat on you. After breaking apart every person takes their possess time to recover from their ex. Spend extra time along with your peers/loved ones, pay attention to pleased songs, get a passion, you might weblog approximately how and what you suppose and simply be lively. Music, artwork and craft are a pair matters you might do. Learn the way to play an tool, perhaps draw anime otherwise you might continually do origami (There are plenty of courses/tutorials on youtube), Why waste some time and harm your self reason of a individual like him? You might continually cross to the institution councelor or a psychiatrist.

Answer 3

honey he is dead in the physical sense but in your heart he is still there it will take time and some days better than others and with you being young it is a traumatic experience you may carry with you thru life keep going to the therapist try and remember the good things and cool stuff you guys did and know someone in Louisville KY is praying for you hugs kisses

Answer 4

Open up to your therapist about all the mixed feelings you are having and he/she will help you to cope better. Maybe you should tell your mom to schedule an appointment with your therapist soon if you don't already have one. My sympathy goes to you and your family.

Answer 5

All I can tell you is that this life is a temporary state. I'm not religous,but like stars that die,they to are reborn. Energy cannot be destroyed.
Your Father is in a good place.

Answer 6

You need to talk about him, about your feelings. Don't keep it inside. Dealing with his death will get easier as time goes on. My sympathies to you and your family.