I asked my close female friend if she FELT anything towards me at all, ever. More than just a friend. (She knows how I feel about her) She replied:
"I never feel nothing for anybody and every individual means something to me in their own unique way.Thats all I'm going to say". MEANING???
If we were just friends WHY wouldn't she just say so???I asked her to be blunt and that I wouldn't hate her for her reply. Help!!!Advice!!!
She then said there are too many ppl in the world who are 2 faced and selfish,who don't value individuals like she does.Is hurt that OTHER ppl don't value ppl the way she does.MEANING???
What she thinking\feeling???Will she speak to me again? What do I do now???
Surely as FRIENDS, she would let me know if there was no chance at all....NO???Is she scared???
2006-12-08 08:50:24 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Now that she knows how you feel ... leave it ... let her be the one to make the next move. Just continue to be her friend! It is possible something from her past makes her scared of love! Go slowly now!
2006-12-08 09:03:39 · answer #1 · answered by lynne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We girls don't realize just how much men appreciate bluntness. You NEED it. Even when we think we're being pretty obvious, we're not as obvious as you'd like. I think that's just the case here. She's trying to spare your feelings, dude. I also think she has some issues with trust based on her whole "too many people are selfish and two-faced" thing. Perhaps she's been hurt in the past and doesn't want to put herself out there to be hurt again. Or maybe she's just not into romance. My advice is to lay low for a couple of days so you don't come across as needy or desperate. If you're still okay with just being friends, after some time has passed, tell her you appreciate the honesty on her part. Best wishes!
2006-12-08 08:55:52 · answer #2 · answered by elizabeth_ashley44 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im afraid it sounds like it's her way of telling you she doesn't feel the same for you. She didn't want to hurt you by telling you this outright, basically, she took the long way round a shortcut. If she did feel the same and as strong about you she would have said so. She probably does have her own unique feeling for you, as we all have our opinions on different people, but please stop stressing about it as it might ruin your friendship. She might even think about it more later on and tell you she does feel more for you because you are interested and thought deeply about it.
I'm sure you are still a close friend of hers, pretend you didn't ask and go about things in the same way. At least she knows for sure now how you feel, maybe you should ask her again in the future, it's all you can do. Friendship is better than losing her altogether after a lovers tiff.
Good Luck x
2006-12-08 09:03:35 · answer #3 · answered by ~Kitana~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should read too much into her answer. I've given an answer like that and it doesn't mean I like or don't like someone as more than a friend... it simply means she's not available emotionally right now, she's obviously closed off from being hurt previously and that even if she had any feelings she wouldn't readily admit it because she is worried about rejection and getting hurt. I think what she said made sense, I think everyone means something else to me, some I hold dearer than others, but there's friendship, friendship with physical attraction, friendship with emotional attraction but no physical attraction, attraction and I want to date you... what she feels about you doesn't need to be verbalized, her actions will tell you. If she acts like she's not into you, than she's not into you. If you've expressed your feelings, you've already thrown the ball in her court, ask her out to do something to see if it develops, if not, keep it as friends so you don't loose that relationship.
2016-05-23 07:29:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's obvious that you are young. Now is as good a time as any to learn that women are at time irrational, fickle and utterly confusing. Don't try to figure them out. It will only drive you insane. Instead I would encourage you to develop a strong sense of self that you believe in and that requires no validation through female attention.
2006-12-08 08:57:01 · answer #5 · answered by Peter D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because if she came out and said LET'S JUST BE FRIENDS...really how would you TAKE THAT? I mean no guy likes hearing THAT LINE RIGHT! So her approach (and I must say very clever) is to redirect that she has no feelings for you in THAT WAY! but that she truly and deeply likes you....but in a none sexual way......does that make sense?....basically she doesn't want to lose your friendship.
2006-12-08 08:57:28 · answer #6 · answered by SecretFriend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just explain that you were confused by her answer and could she explain it again. It's got to be better than her thinking that you're two faced because of a misunderstanding! Good luck and Merry Christmas xx.
2006-12-08 09:04:23 · answer #7 · answered by maria bartoninfrance 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like she's got issues with trusting people.
2006-12-08 08:54:30 · answer #8 · answered by Gilligan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her away for a weekend to bognor regis and talk talk talk talk talk THE END
2006-12-08 08:58:13 · answer #9 · answered by : 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her to translate what all that gibberish means.
2006-12-08 09:07:48 · answer #10 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋