I need help?

Question

Its hard to explain everything but i will give u some details, i have derpression and some social promblems, and i am a full time carrer and i am finding it really hard to cope with everything most nights i am having sucidal thoughts, etc i am seeing a thearpist, but i just dont see it going no where, i want to go to a retreat, somewhere that helps people in my situation, maybe with a christian background or whatever i dont mind
but i dont know where to look?
where can i turn?

Answer 1

well ou can try the dulzdin buddhist retreat in liverpool or the manjushri in the lake district there are lots and lots of spiritual retreats i feel like you a lot of the time but ihave 2 kids and so i never ever fully express it!Life is tough babe and I know how you feel its awful it really is you need a change of scene totally you know i find if you go to a local yoga class or reiki share youll meet some like minded people and they will lead you onto your next step on your path xx bless you xx love n light joanna x

Answer 2

Aww honey I know how u feel. My dad has been through depression for the last 3 years or so. First thing is dont worry. I know its easy for me to say. What has happened in your life to mke you feel like this? Is it your job? Could you change your job? Have you lost someone close to you (either through death or split etc)? Is this something you have come to terms with / admitted? If not you do need to do this and soon.

Are you on medication? Could your doc / therapist put you on something?

Do you have an active social life? Could you go out more? Could you do something different? Join a club, gym?

I know these things are never easy to over turn. Talk to the people who are most important in your life, family / friends. They are there for you. I promise. Are there any websites you can go to, to chat (with similar sufferers)? Sometimes you can just write things down and they feel better (not a cure I know but it helps). Maybe keep a diary of how you feel day-to-day.

Remember my love, there are people around for you. YOU ARE NOT ALONE! Please dont worry. I hope this goes some way to your speedy recovery.

Good luck xx

Answer 3

Dont worry so much, and your are doing great, you have something really awesome, dont let your fear of losing it, cause you to lose it.

Dont be afraid. And dont think there is anything wrong with you, there is nothing wrong.

First the depression and social problems could be due to the winter. Humans forget we are animals and just like animals we hibernate.

It is odd that humans tend to want to relax and be more comfort and cozy in the winter, yet companies want big time production and big time sales in the winter. Its ok, in just 3 weeks everyone in the office will calm down.

In addition your a woman in the corporate world, your probably sub-consciously bombarded with slogans that you need to be a mom and not to work in a career.

Dont listen to that nonsense, your out there taking care of yourself.
Dont back out this is kind of like uncharted territory, women had office rights in what the 1970's? so only two decades of corporate respect? Yeah I would say you have it difficult and you are stressed. But so what? You cant kill yourself, your to Awesome. Way to cool.... and you take on the challenges that you go through.

Dont worry, things will pass, dont kill yourself. Especially three weeks before Christmas, what will everyone do with the gifts they bought for you? So you can wait for New Years, but then again you can make a new years resolution to not kill yourself.

I am sorry baby that things are tough, but its ok, you will find your way. What about a new career in 2007, or a new office, or a new company? So many options.



Just save up for a ticket to Hawaii. <----- yea... go in summer, by it now it will cheer you up and give you something to look forward too. Plus it will give you six months to save for hotel ect.
Hawaii is amazing, Its easy to get there, the hardest part is the courage to buy a flight ticket. Look at is an adventure. Yeaaa---

If you want something sooner go on the trip in your local area, like your favorite part of outside the city, or state stay there for a day or two.



If you really want to take a friend, how about Paris for New Years.......

As for the church....
I dont know about the US, yet Europe has retreats set up in every castle/convent. Take a look online, google has translation of webistes and most speak some English. Its about 3-4 month waiting list. Its free if you pay taxes to the church, yet since you dont pay taxes, then you might have to pay for room and board, its not expensive $10 per day. Its nice the nuns care for you, usually convents are in the middle of large forests, or near beautiful lakes/ rivers, and for the first week your in silence, second week you talk about your problems, third week they repeat what you have said, the fourth week you find your solutions.

Answer 4

seen you on here before babe. Why consider suicide ? My son died aged 29 by hanging it just hurts the people left behind. You want to see his daughters weep their eyes out over him and it happened 5 years ago. Lets face it babe all this is a state of mind, and please dont say I am stupid because I have been through it all and I just getting better and starting to cope with going out etc.. Yes I still have times when I want to run away and I sweat and get panic attacks but it getting better because of my determination. Dont know where you live but you can come here for peace and quiet and have your own room etc.. plus I will talk to you anytime you [e-mail]

Answer 5

I don't know where you are in the world but if you are in the UK you must contact Social Services. They can arrange for the person that you care for to go into some residential accommodation for a week or two. It is called 'respite care' and the aim is to give YOU, the carer 'respite' from the duty of caring.
Explain to them your physical, emotional and mental problems.
They can help.
Best of luck.

Answer 6

Sounds like something may have changed and you aren't coping very well. Have you talked with your therapist about your suicidal feelings? Perhaps you need a med/therapy combo for a short time to get you back on track.

Answer 7

I think you should ring an emergency dr or nhs direct for advice NOW. I also am suffering from depression but luckily i dont have suicidal thoughts. You could also ring your local hospital if that feels easier. If you cant do this then PLEASE talk to a friend or family member about how you are feeling. YOU NEED HELP NOW,PLEASE DONT DO ANYTHING SILLY,TALK TO SOMEONE NOW & GET THE HELP YOU DESERVE. You sound a lovely person. Thinking about you,goor luck. Please let us know how you are.Take care.

Answer 8

Life is tough sometimes I went through a bad patch once. My wife bought me a Xbox and kicking some *** on the thing cheered me up no end. Things are a lot better now and I am good at the xbox aswell , good luck and think happy thoughts

Answer 9

Purepink Dear, try to google yourself to people with similar problems. Find them. Ask them. It`s a good start. Divide Your problems on categories, and solve them step-by-step . You know..: baby steps. I`ve got my critical life period to. But know is all that forgotten. The best help was my wife, as a good friend. Find Your way, but don`t give up.

Answer 10

The Samaritans' phoneline service give great advice in the UK. If you're elsewhere in the world, I'm sure there'll be some equivalent help-lines.