Just this morning my grandfather died. I came home from school on the bus, all she said was "Your grandfather died." she hasnt said anything else. What should i do?
2006-12-08 08:38:16 · 13 answers · asked by Dr. Yasha 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Nothing, except to be there for her when she needs you to be.
2006-12-08 08:40:25 · answer #1 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, sometimes it is best to let a person grieve by theirselves for a little bit, so they can be in piece while memories run through their minds. However, remember you are all family and times like these call for talking or just sitting together. If it hard for you to say something, opt to order in pizza and watch some tv. Even if you don't watch, you are still together and sometimes, some people need a distraction to start talking. (less pressure) It may be a hard night, but we can't let our loved ones get down. We have to always strive to make this world a better place, not by buying gifts or spending money. Take a car ride to a different place, eat at a diner...little things. For me, the woods and running water seem to bring me home. I hope this helps you and I am sorry for your loss.
2006-12-08 08:49:00 · answer #2 · answered by KJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is still silent after 3 days, seek medical help or a grief counselor or priest or minister. You may wish to seek a grief counselor yourself to know how to help your mom. Be as supportive as you can be and dont pressure her, but by the same token, dont allow this silence to go beyond 3 days. Death of older relatives is a natural event in life.
2006-12-08 08:51:14 · answer #3 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it time. The body works wonders on healing itself. Your mom not only has to deal with her emotions, but the loss of a loved one, probably arranging the funeral, and helping others (like you). She's overwhelmed and at a loss right now. Be supportive and lean on each other. Time will help....
2006-12-08 08:40:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be there for her when she needs a shoulder to cry on...she is probably in a state of shock and doesnt know what to do...its hard to loose a loved one especially a parent...give her time and if she doesnt snap outta it in a few weeks, think about getting her some professional help...sorry about ur loss
2006-12-08 08:42:26 · answer #5 · answered by Sean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her time. More then likely that was her father? think of the pain you would feel if you lost one of your parents. give it some time. Your mom is in great pain now and needs you to be as supportive as possible.
2006-12-08 08:46:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be with her,talk to her,and make her feel extra loved. Also let her know how u feel and that your there 4 her because you've just lost something too.
2006-12-08 08:46:07 · answer #7 · answered by puppy_lover 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep the house staightened up, try to assist her in any way & 4 right now without saying a word, pour her drinks(soda,juice,koolaid,tea etc.etc.) you know what she likes & how she likes it, so just be there, be her silent assistant, write her a note/letter letting her know that you love her, & you are there with & 4 her.. just stay strong okay??!! be strong 4 her & let her know that you are.. good luck & stay strong
2006-12-08 08:55:23 · answer #8 · answered by kimmiegaddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for her if she needs to talk or just needs a hug. She needs some time to deal with the death. Dont worry.
2006-12-08 08:42:22 · answer #9 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her have sometime to get over the trama of the situation be good and help out if you can and tell her you love and need her everyday.
2006-12-08 08:41:46 · answer #10 · answered by kathy c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her some time, then let her know that if she needs to talk you are availiable. try helping her around the house.
2006-12-08 08:40:28 · answer #11 · answered by S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋