When a guy says he would love you if he was single what does it mean?
i was dating a guy for a while we both were very physically attracted to one another and things broke up as i was upset about my job etc a little needy at the time...he always stares at me when we are out and the other day i apoligised to him and he said i was one of the most lovely people he had met and that initially he was intimidated by my job ( i have quite a high powered job and earn good money) he also said he thought i was gorgeous back then and still does, i said i was leaving and he kept on grabbing me and said he would love me...if he was single..When i chatted about one of my ex boyfriends he got jealous and said 'what about us?'. He has only just started to date someone else..i have always been infatuated with him and vice versa..what should i do should i ask him for a drink as friends, i think he could of beena potential one
2006-12-08 08:38:01 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's involved with someone else now. I don't know what he is doing. It sounds like he wants to be with you again though
2006-12-08 08:42:12 · answer #1 · answered by bigfree_2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means he hasn't got the guts to break up with the person he's seeing at the moment for you, yet. Mostly because you dumped him already (is this the case? not completely clear from your question, i.e. who dumped who?).
If you still like him and aren't going to mess him around again, then yes, you should ask him for a drink as a friend.
But there are two warning bells that should be ringing in your head: a) he said he was intimidated by your job. Make very sure that he no longer is, because if he is, this will inevitably cause problems later on. And b) he got jealous when you mentioned your ex. Bad sign. In fact the guy doesn't sound too cool at all.
(Were the two of you sober when you had this conversation? That might explain some of it)
It sounds very much to me like there's a lot of physical attraction going on here (you say you were infatuated) but not a whole lot else. But I don't know you or him or what is important to you in a relationship so if you do really like and trust him then ask him for a drink, as a friend. Then, the above warnings taken on board, see how things go.
And to answer your main question again, the fact that he said he would love you if he was single means that he might be asking for help. So if you want him again, you can't expect him to break up with his current girlfriend in the hope of being with you - you will actually have to ask him straight up. You'll have to say 'dump her and get back with me' because he won't do it of his own accord, seems like you've hurt him before.
Anyway, best of luck and take care of yourself.
2006-12-08 16:55:22 · answer #2 · answered by CiarᮠM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, when do you see each other? Are you both sober? That matters a lot. Secondly, if he says he would love you if he were single that means he wants to have sex with you without breaking up with his current g/f. It's what most people would call "playing games".
If he really wanted you he would break up with his current g/f and you wouldn't be asking for advice on the matter. What he's doing here is juggling two women. You're obviously smitten with him otherwise you would be thinking with your head and not your heart.
It all comes down to one thing: if he breaks up with his current g/f then you should see him, but not until then. I have to think there was a reason you didn't stay together when you two first dated (beyond the "my job was upsetting").
Think about why you originally broke up and if you still really want to see this guy then let him know you will if he calls it off with his current. But realize that in asking him to do that you might be hurting another person (his current g/f).
2006-12-08 16:48:17 · answer #3 · answered by Peter D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its obvious he's not single so why deepen your path of pain for the future. move on and let the single man that's waiting for you love you and only you, and you must do the same. Remember what goes around comes back around. Make the best decision that will complete you not your emotions. PEACE!
2006-12-08 17:04:12 · answer #4 · answered by Yahshua F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that he likes you alot but hes confusedmy advice is to talk to him and see what he thinking about so yeah ask him out as friends just to pick his brain a lil bit... you don't seem like the type to share so find out whats up with the what's up..never know you may be able to change his mind just talk to him tell him how you feel but not everything you know
2006-12-08 16:55:01 · answer #5 · answered by matchbox 78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to wonder if he knows what love means. Love is not dependent of relationship status, love is something else. Be careful with someone so fickle with such a serious word.
2006-12-08 16:44:55 · answer #6 · answered by jazzman1127 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have a high powered job, that will indicate that you are capable of solving minor dating problems. he alluded to being married if i get what you wrote. you could try the coffee date or some other meetings. go for it and have a great holiday.
2006-12-08 16:47:34 · answer #7 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means he alrady has someone in his life and he does not want to leave her for you. I seriously believe the guy is not sincere in his relationship with the other woman. I will advise you to not to go for him.
2006-12-08 16:52:44 · answer #8 · answered by dua 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
means he would have preferred to be with you, but he is in a relationship now and will not hurt her to be with you. So if it doesnt work between them, you got a shot coming!
2006-12-08 16:42:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋