How should I mend a sibling relationship?

Question

I have 4 brothers and 2 sisters, and none of us seem to be able to get along. Over the years we have all gone our own ways. Our parnets have not helped matters either, they dont get along with all of us. How can I get us all together and hash all our issues out. My mother pits all us kids against each other too. We are all grownups, if she is mad at one of us, we are all suppose to be mad and not talk to them because she is not talking to them. But nothing is ever her fault.

Answer 1

I would start one by one and talk to them via the phone or email tell them that I care about you because you are my sister or brother and want to improve on my relationship with you and then that way if they want to they can tell you themselves good luck to you

Answer 2

The problem with family dynamics are that they are never easy. You need to make some healthy decisions about how much of this you are going to try and fix and how much effort you are willing to put into an almost impossible situation. Sometimes the smartest decision is to just step back and not get involved as it just causes emotional pain to try and work out these issues. I would just write a letter and send a copy to all member of the family asking them if they would like to attend a family get together at a neutral place such as a restaurant. The rules will be that their will be no arguing for those three hours and this will be a holiday gift for everyone. The ones that are interested can all meet enjoy a meal and then go on with their lives. With healthy boundaries everyone can be reasonably happy and not have to worry about verbal abuse or trying to make others happy. Life is too short to try and straighten out what sounds like a mess that has taken many years to make. Good luck God bless.

Answer 3

I feel sorry for people with such manipulative parents as that!

I would get together with each of them individually and tell them what you said here, about your parents being manipulative and that you want it to stop now!

Invite the spouses and your siblings for a dinner, or even a picnic in good weather.

I would do this with out inviting your parents for the first few times, (provided they live close by), and develope a repore with them. Maybe you can invite them to church, and that would go a long way to reconciliation of the entire family...

I wish you well..

Jesse

Answer 4

I have 4 brothers and 3 sisters. I can completely relate to that. lol, for a while 2 of my sisters and myself were referred to as 'The 3 Witches' behind our backs, by my mother.

What you should really focus on is the way you personally feel about each person. And never tell them negative things someone else is saying about them. Don't be mom's messenger.

They may never ALL be friends with each other, but don't let anyone stop you from being friends with each of them.

And don't let let them fight with each other through you. It can end with you.

Answer 5

What about an anonymous get together? Like sending a letter under the pretense of something else, but have it be a get-together. I'm sure each of you has a happy childhood memory. What about holding a party and posting pictures of them up all around the house or something? It usually gets people talking...

Idk. Maybe its a stupid idea, but maybe it could work too.

Answer 6

It sounds like a disfunctional family situation. Don't worry, I've had plenty of those...I would say, set up a time for you and your siblings to talk w/out your parents around. Work things out between them first.

Answer 7

Invite all your brothers and sisters over and sit down and have a talk just make sure it doesn't turn into a yelling match, good luck

Answer 8

I comprehend. If all she does is lie and ask for money, i could choose her to stay away as commonly as achievable. i admire the belief of sisters, like the Kardashians!!! yet they have been given their issues too i'm guessing. Like issues they could't stand approximately one yet another.. in case you have observed, khloe and kourtney have been continually closer to one yet another than kim became into.. Kim became into style of the 0.33 wheel or placed to the ingredient, yet i do no longer think of Kim observed it that way! It regarded that Kim enjoyed the particularly some distance. Then considering Kourtney is for certainly with Scott now considering they have a baby, Khloe were putting her toddler's daddy down and it fairly created a topic for Kourtney in case you haven't any longer observed the particularly some expressions on her face.. It became into style of like, she became into caught having between the "advise females" for her sister. I advise they have been so close yet, she would not like Scott so?.. you may think of the subject concerns there that they could "get with the aid of" and placed aside now. Idk. I actually have a youthful sister and, stuff hasn't been suitable and there'd been circumstances that she decrease me out of her existence for notwithstanding reason, and then got here working lower back while she felt like it. i could on no account executed the comparable to her nonetheless. and so consistent with danger I save a watch or carry some barriers or admire there, so as that she can not purely abuse me like that. and that i think of she is familiar with now, matured a lot greater too. What you're able to do is take it as that's. that's what that's and attempt to no longer sense undesirable or much less or down approximately it. it relatively is the terrific element. she ought to alter or, she ought to finally finally end up being somebody you ought to somewhat be much less in touch with, purely bc.

Answer 9

make amends where you can with whom you can and don't let the other stuff bog you down. You can only do so much. I know its not easy as I don't get along with all my siblings, but the one I do. I treasure.

Answer 10

Seems to me if she is the one to start stuff kick her by the wayside until she learns siblings are forever.