Would u go to pakistan?

Question

my boyfriend is a pakistani and iam an american white female. he would like to take me to his country to meet his family. he also wants to marry me their, but if we get married there will i still be married when we come back to new york..thanks

we have been together for 5 yrs and currently live together for 5 months.

Answer 1

Being a Pakistani living abroad I believe that your boyfriend is very sincere in relationship with you otherwise he would never ask you to go to Pakistan with him and get married there. Actually it has something to do with our culture and tradition. We Pakistani people believe that marriage is a sacred bond and when you are marrying the woman you love you must do it in style as marriage is a kind of thing which can not be repeated so every one likes to make his marriage a memorable one. The Pakistani parents, from the birth of their child, start dreaming about his marriage and when he marries someone abroad without their and other family's participation all their dreams are shattered. I seriously believe that being an intellegent girl you will not commit the mistake of hurting your in-laws feelings and will go to Pakistan to ask for their belssings before your boyfriend marries you. I assure you it will give you some sort of happiness you would have never experienced before. You can register your marriage in U.S embassy in Islamabad. I just wonder reading above answers. I think all of you have poor knowledge about Pakistan all of you need better study. And I assure you that there are no problems whatsoever with any woman and if there are problems they are not different then U.S. You will be given due respect.

Answer 2

Marrying someone from a different religion, culture and country is like playing Russian Roulette for a million dollars with bullets in 4 of the 6 chambers of the pistol. It may work out great. You may regret it. The percentages are not with you.

Most nations recognize each other's marriages, except Muslims can have up to 4 wives and the US doesn't recognize #2, 3 or 4. Someone at the US State Department could tell you more. They may have a web site with FAQ.

If he decides he doesn't want to return to the US after you marry him, you are stuck, since in his country you are his property.

I wouldn't do it.

You might spend an hour a day, for several days, Googling "Women's rights Pakistan".

While I'm dumping on you, you have a there/their mistake and you didn't capitalize properly.

Answer 3

Speaking as a Pakistani woman...I wonder why you would marry into our culture? I married out of my culture to get away from the controlling Pakistani men and the gossip of the women. They will never accept you. You need to become a Muslim in order for your in laws to accept you...

Answer 4

Are you aware that in Pakistan you, as a women, are a second class citizen. Also the fact you are American and a women would probably not sit well with his famnily in the first place, no mattter what he tells you.

Answer 5

yea u think u'll come back but u wont. once u and him are married there then u r considered his property and u cant leave the country w/o his consent if i were u i would tell him that\ his family can come 2 u

Answer 6

If you will marry in Pakistan you will be maried in USA too, but only if you will ever come back in USA. Take good care...

Answer 7

As a woman I would not go to pakistani....... I won't say anything bad but you really should read up on that country before going.
It's not very nice... for woman.

Answer 8

How long have you known him? I don't think you should leave the country with any man (of any culture) without knowing him pretty well.

That's a long way from home to find out you made a mistake.

Answer 9

Sure, and I would expect to never return. I would get used to constant physical and verbal abuse, then die due to an honor killing.

Answer 10

no you wouldn't be married in the eyes of the US... you'd need to get it done again...

i, personally, wouldn't go to pakistan... but it is your choice... :D