iam a married woman, i can,t sleep at night when my husband does not cuddle me.i will be awake the whole night until he cuddles me.[i started developing dark circles]sometimes he says he is tired, i will try by all means to have a good sleep, unless I take sleeping aid I cannt go to sleep.I will be awake the whole night, is it normal.I am just six month old marriege, sometimes I feel like leaving him because of that .please help me.
2006-12-08 07:57:45 · 4 answers · asked by african princess 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Other - Diseases
princess,
There's more going on here than just the cuddling, and I'd bet that it will take a counselor to figure it out with you.
Think about this: before you were married, how did you get to sleep at night? When in fact did you start having this problem of not being able to sleep without someone to cuddle? Once upon a time you didn't have anyone to cuddle with, and yet you got to sleep, so when did that change?
It is dangerous to make a long-distance diagnosis on such slender information, and there are several psychological conditions that can cause the problem you describe: an old trauma (betrayal or abandonment, for example), a simple fear of the dark, anxieties of several kinds, stress, high expectations, borderline personality disorder, all manner of things.
To find out what really is going on in your life--the sleeplessness is just a symptom--you need someone to talk to, someone who can help you sort things out. It won't be your husband. He needs to be there to support you, and sometimes a counselor can seem like an enemy, since she can tell you truths you don't want to hear.
But go talk to somebody and find out what's going on.
2006-12-08 08:13:47 · answer #1 · answered by eutychusagain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound normal to me.how did you manage to sleep before you got married? It sounds like you have other personal issues here. If you can't get to sleep because your husband doesn't hold you there is definitely something else bothering you, Could it be insecurity? sleeping aids should be your last alternative. why not try some other things first. you could try exercising, reading, cutting out caffeine if you drink it. Why would you punish your husband by leaving him because you are insecure and need him to sleep. Is that fair?
I would consider talking to your husband or a therapist to find out the real cause of your insomnia.
Good luck to you.
2006-12-08 16:29:37 · answer #2 · answered by sugarmagnolia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF YOUR HUSBANDS DOES NOT FEEL LIKE CUDDLING..TRY GETTING A LARGE STUFFED ANIMAL TO CUDDLE UP TO.
2006-12-08 16:04:51 · answer #3 · answered by cece 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you get the right medication you can be helped.
2006-12-08 16:00:18 · answer #4 · answered by Bobby! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋