she's been together with him off and on for 2 years.she does not really love him but maybe cares for him.there's nothing much in their relationship, but bcos she has had many bad experiences in the past with other guys ,she doesn't want to let go of this relationship and try something new.in other words,she's scared to let go.the problem is,i am in love with her and i dont know what to do.i know that she's at least attracted to me ,but i dont know how to progress from there.
2006-12-08 07:54:35 · 22 answers · asked by steven c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you truly love her, let her know that she doesn't have to be insecure about the relationship if she's with you. Tell her exactly how you feel. But just try to ease in, you don't want to scare her away. Prove it to her not only with your honest words, but with your actions. Make her see that with you she will get everything she's never had, all she's ever wanted and more. Let her fall in love with you. By the way you say it, I don't think she loves this guy either. "On & Off Again" relationships never work. One day she will realize that it's you she should be with. If it's meant to be, it will all fall in it's place eventually. It just takes a little time & patience.
Good Luck!
2006-12-08 08:05:23 · answer #1 · answered by I Might Even Be a Rock Star... 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay. I know this from experience. (I was in a relationship off & on for 2 years with my ex-bf after some bad relationships.)
Are you good friends? If so, then she probably knows that what a great guy you are. She may just need some extra help knowing that you will be there for her. Just be the best friend you can be for her.
Also, I don't know this girl. Each girl is different, but my friend just got out of a bad relationship and into a much better one. The guy that liked her told her that he did after being friends with her for a while & she realized that there were other guys out there that wouldn't hurt her. She just had to chose the right one. So, she broke up with her boyfriend at the time & she has now been dating this guy for over a year.
2006-12-08 08:17:49 · answer #2 · answered by Ally 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know your in love with her? do you wake up thinking about her? are you sad when she is? 2 years is a long time even after she breaks up with him she's gonna need time to get over him or else you'll end up her rebound relationship and date a month, maybe f__k her a couple of times before she realizes she's not ready for a real commitment yet. Do you want to end up the rebound or god forbid, "the friend"? i would stop talking to her, but tell her friends you like her (if you can casually do this if not, don't) talk to her about a girl ur interested in, appear unavailable its gonna be hard to work this because you love her, if you want more than a **** your going to have to distance yourself lest ye become the rebound
2006-12-08 08:05:07 · answer #3 · answered by DRNOPE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off my friend she doesn't sound like she's too stable in relationships to start with. Perhaps if she changes to you, you will suffer the same outcomes as your predecessors. Also if you say you "love" someone but its not returned I really don't think you can call it love. Maybe more appropriate terms in this case might be lust, pity, empathy, sadness, anger (at the other guys), and other stuff. Why do you feel the need to rescue this girl? There's tons of beautiful girls out there. Go find one that is able to love and care for you in the manner you deserve. This doesn't sound like it........Good luck.....Stew
2006-12-08 08:01:00 · answer #4 · answered by Stew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is not ready to leave her relationship, then you have nothing to say in the matter.
All you can do is profes to her your feelings and TRY to make her understand your side of things, but to me, it sounds like you are not understanding her side of things. What you have put down here is what she has told you.
Did you ever think that she is not telling you EVERYTHING that is going on in her relationship with her boyfriend?
All you can do is try. If she leaves him and goes with you, then you will have gotten what you asked for. But, beware. If she is this unsettled with him after 2 years, where will you be in two years?
2006-12-08 07:59:24 · answer #5 · answered by bux_martinfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you are IN love with her- you are probably just attracted to her- I think that any person that is involved with someone else should be OFF LIMITS to those that know they are involved with someone else. It would be very dishonorable of you to try and take her from him. I say what goes around comes around, so if you do that to this dude, it will likely happen to you too.
-EA
2006-12-08 08:03:14 · answer #6 · answered by Earthy Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Steven : did you know about her boyfriend yet?
well according to that see they kinda starting breaking -up with
each other because nothing isn't working out very much
go ahead talk to this girl but be aware of ex's jelious behavor
also she'd must make own deciding point between him and yourself !
2006-12-08 08:19:41 · answer #7 · answered by toddk57@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has a bf then leave her alone. If she were dating you and some douche bag was trying to take her away, wouldn't that piss you off? Exactly, leave her alone. She is a big girl and will make her own decisions.
2006-12-08 07:57:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly if she didnt have some love for the guy she wouldnt be with him. Im sorry, but she is making excuses...Unless she is old with kids then it shouldnt be hard for her to move on..she must really love him, and you should find someone to love you.
2006-12-08 07:56:51 · answer #9 · answered by Tamekia Anderson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in love with someone who has a significant other as well. It really sucks. I feel your pain. The best thing to do is nothing.
2006-12-08 07:56:37 · answer #10 · answered by Kat Strat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋