I have a best friend who is literally obsessed with her boyfriend. They have been going out for about a year. She sees him every week she does not really make an effort to see her other friends including me. Just wants to see him. She does not want to go to parties, single events, etc because of him. For their one year present he got her fudge and told her he hopes their together for a long time. She did not get him anything. They are both in their thirties. I do not feel this relationship is healthy because she is putting all her eggs in one basket. I do not feel this relationship is healthy. Is this relationship considered unhealthy?
2006-12-08 07:54:30 · 11 answers · asked by brooke992002 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not being self fish or jealous that my friend is in a realtionship. Just concerned that is all.
2006-12-08 08:08:23 · update #1
A relationship is unhealthy when one or both parties is unhappy, is isolating themselves from others, and/or one or both parties is emotionally/physically harming each other.
I would say that your friend fits one of those criteria.
What I feel is more worrisome is the fact that their behavior is immature. Girls act that way with their first or second boyfriend, not in their 30s. She seems to have an immature notion of male-female relationships and that cannot be a good thing. And fudge? Not getting that.
2006-12-08 07:59:47 · answer #1 · answered by Karen L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she were younger, I would consider this unhealthy but she's in her 30's and old enough to make her own decisions. Is her social life the only thing that's suffering or is she also neglecting work responsibilities and/or time with her family? Have you tried talking to her about how you feel? It could be that she has found the man of her dreams and is in the process of settling down and starting a life with him. Give her some time and be patient with her, everyone deserves to find that special someone before it's too late.
2006-12-08 08:10:28 · answer #2 · answered by Desiree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-30 08:04:04 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're being selfish. Because she does not want to spend time with you does not mean the relationship is unhealthy. It means that it is becoming serious.
And what you call `putting all her eggs in one basket', the rest of us call commitment. The relationship is far from unhealthy, it sounds like a good one.
Also, I find it odd that you're perturbed that your friend who is in a relationship will *not* go to a singles event.
2006-12-08 08:06:02 · answer #4 · answered by Bald White Guy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I hate to say this, but it really isn't any of your business. I am not trying to be rude, but people in relationships have their own 'way'. And we'll never figure it out. Now if you felt she was being abused I may address it with her. This happens to friendships when men come along. You need to ride it out and when he dumps her or vice/versa she'll be back as the same person you remember.
2006-12-08 07:59:51 · answer #5 · answered by twest_dgo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it just seems like she doesnt want to lose a man again but is doin a crappy job so its not a healthy relationship at all.
2006-12-08 07:59:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are in their THIRTIES and he got her FUDGE as an anniversary gift?!? That is seriously lame, not to mention wierd.
2006-12-08 07:58:50 · answer #7 · answered by F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't seem unhealthy to me ... seems pretty normal actually.
2006-12-08 08:01:22 · answer #8 · answered by Jesse2k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not really they are just in love
2006-12-08 07:59:01 · answer #9 · answered by i love cookies!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seem like you're jealouse!
2006-12-08 07:58:29 · answer #10 · answered by OverShiNe 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋