So me and this girl are best friends and have become pretty darn close. We always get along great and we talk at least once everyday. When we're alone at my house or her house we always have deep conversations and sometime I'll find ourselves holding hands or hugging on each other. We always tell each other we love one another. But she has also said that she doesnt like that idea of gays. I have no idea if she is just saying this to cover up or if she really feels this way. I mean we've kissed each other on the cheek and stuff and when I hang out with other people or a guy friend she seems jealous. How do you think she feels about me? What are some discreet way how i could find out?
2006-12-08 07:51:32 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She could just be a touchy-feely kind of person. That's how i am. Just because she hugs you and kisses you on the cheek does not make her a lesbian. If she tells you tha she doesn't approve of gays in private, chances are, she isn't covering anything up. I think she is just your friend, and when she gets jealous, she is jealous because she doesn't want some guy to come between the two of you. I dont' think she is gay or interested in you like that.
2006-12-08 07:55:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is acting like a normal girl. Girls usually kiss on the cheek and hug each other. Your friend made it loud and clear to you that she is not gay. I would be careful as to let her know how you feel due to she might end the friendship. I am straight and my friend would get jealous if I talked to guys or girls. She was just like that. Some people are like that and it doesn't mean they are gay. There is no discreet way to find out. If you have been alone and no moves were made on her part, then you have your answer.
2006-12-08 07:57:16 · answer #2 · answered by cookie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may have to sit down in a neutral, private setting (not a bedroom) and tell her you are gay. Tell her you understand her feelings about gays, that you appreciate her honesty, and ask her if she still considers you her best friend. You may have to give her some time to come to terms with your news if she didn't have a clue, and you may lose her friendship. However, friendship means accepting a person just as she is, especially best friends.
As far as the physical contact, it's no more than anyone might do with a close personal friend or a family member.
2006-12-08 08:02:10 · answer #3 · answered by Melanie D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK. I figure you have three options: Status quo, first move, or talking. Status Quo: Whether you two are in a romantic or only a friendship relationship, its all good at the level where you are at now. You could just keep on at this pace and see where the relatoinship goes. This is not uncommon for even friends who are only platonic but just really close. Or you could try to make a move if you're willing to risk it all.
First move: While you two are sitting close together or holding hands try putting one arm around her waist and touching her breast with your other hand while you kiss her neck. Try touching her thighs and between her legs really easy and slow without pushing for more to see how she responds. Or you could go up to her and bury your face between her legs through her clothes to see how she responds.
Talking: Or you could talk to her about your relationaship and see if she wants to try to take it to the next level and turn it sexual. Tell her you are curious about how it would feel for you two to kiss and touch oneanother.
Sometimes people are homophobic because they have not accepted their own feelings inside themselves and try to deny their true inclinations. Good luck to you and your best friend!
2006-12-08 08:00:20 · answer #4 · answered by Cynthia W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesn't really mean that you're gay if you kiss other people of the same sex on the cheek. i'm pretty sure everyone does it. if she really said that she doesn't like the idea of being gay then that was a sign for you from her that she doesn't want you to think that she's like that. and i'm not sure in what way she seems jealous when your around other people or guy friends...does she act differently? so yeah i think she told you about the gay thing so you wouldnt think that way about her.
2006-12-08 07:57:42 · answer #5 · answered by Shookoolate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. from what you have already said it sounds like she's into you but may want you to make the first move, or she could just be a needy friend who automatically gets defensive when she feels as though someone is trying to steal your friendship away from her. If you guys are that close ask her, see how she responds.
2006-12-08 07:56:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound exactly how best friends act. Get over that idea! Unless you are thinking you might have feelings for her.
2006-12-08 07:54:03 · answer #7 · answered by twest_dgo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is your best friend have a heart to heart chat with her and voice your concerns there is no discreet way of finding out without being sneaky.
2006-12-08 07:56:09 · answer #8 · answered by kathy c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her. If you have feelings for her the best thing to do is just talk about it. If you are worried you will ruin your friendship just be carefull in how you approach the subject.
2006-12-08 07:54:41 · answer #9 · answered by foradare 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Female friendships are some of the closest. I think you guys should just stay friends... and sometimes, drink a lot and see what happens.
2006-12-08 07:53:42 · answer #10 · answered by Kat Strat 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋