My baby's daddy hasn't been paying much attetion to us.I have talked to him about it and its fixed for a moment and then it's back to roomates living together. I want attention and affection. My son screams if I hand him off to his daddy. I've done everything I can. Its all up to him now I'm just waiting for him to take the step and its hurting me really bad. Its hurting me so bad I want to leave him. I can't stay up crying every night.Can someone give me some suggetions? We are supposed to get married I don't know if I want that anymore.
2006-12-08 07:48:11 · 14 answers · asked by peaches 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow, honey it sounds like you really need a change. I just don't think you will get that change from him. Now, I don't know you or your son or your man, nor do I know how he acts, your situation or environment, but what I can tell you is that you don't want to get married until your relationship has stable footing.
Without knowing your situation or background no one can really give you the advice you need. Someone may be able to tell you what you want to hear, but not what will help you. If you really love him ask him to go to counsoling with you or sit down with a church for guidence. If he wants things to work out as much as you do then he will work something out with you.
All I can really say is hang in there. Remember that it's not jsut you, that you need to take care of. That son of yours needs stability and comfort. As much as it hurts, evaluate what your relationship with him is doing to your son. Single parent families are hard, but my friend recently left his wife and now his son is better behavied, speaking fully and now potty trained. Sometimes a negative environment can do more damage than you realize.
Only you can decide what is best. Take everyones advice as a guideline and a step towards a decision, but base your actions on what will bring you the best long term outcome rather than pleasure for the moment.
Best of luck to you and God Bless!
2006-12-08 08:01:41 · answer #1 · answered by angelkiss95670 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say you shouldnt wait anymore. Would you want a guy with you for the rest of your life that hurts you and your baby? I would say no, and marrige is a big step and would mean more hurt and pain for you. You should let him go because if you keep telling him to act up, then he will continue to do what he is doing, he will stop for a couple of days, and go back to how he was. If he really cared, he would have stopped when you told him. Try being alone with your baby, it be best for you and your baby.
2006-12-08 07:51:39 · answer #2 · answered by ThexSilentxOnex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he does not want to get married.
Maybe he is to immature to be a father or husband.
Ask him bluntly what he wants.
A real man has to give up being a boy to take care of his family.
Sounds like he is not sure if he wants to be a Man or stay a Boy.
You better find out, and don't waste any more time on Boys.
I would suggest a Priest if you are Catholic, (even if you aren't) they are very understanding and non-judgmental.
Good Luck!
2006-12-08 07:52:50 · answer #3 · answered by C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with him and explain exactly why this is not a happy situation for you and tell him that things have to change. You shuld not get married if you are not happy but you have to think about your son, try making time for just you and your man. He amy be a little jealous of your son (sounds stupid but happens) and let him know that he is still very important to you.
2006-12-08 07:52:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your home should be a happy place. You are living in sadness and that cant be good for you or your baby. Its not good that your baby doesnt wanna go to his dad. You should ask him he is is still "feeling" the relationship and tell him how you feel. If he doesnt feel the same way then maybe you should go and seek happiness. There is more to life than sadness and hurt.
2006-12-08 07:55:08 · answer #5 · answered by Tamekia Anderson 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-30 08:03:51 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, some relationships aren't worth saving. Easier said than done, of course. You've talked to him about this and it's not gotten better. If you're in doubt, DO NOT marry him until you are absolutely certain and secure with your relationship! Please :-)
2006-12-08 07:52:14 · answer #7 · answered by Rach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u want some affection, the best way to get it is to remember how u got his attention in the first place. be flirty,
2006-12-08 07:52:55 · answer #8 · answered by Crystal O 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can not fix the situation if he does not change his ways. Either he needs to shape up or you need to ship out
2006-12-08 07:51:13 · answer #9 · answered by Mike 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's probably jealous of the time you must spend with your son. Schedule some regular together-time with him. If that doesn't work, move on.
2006-12-08 07:51:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋