My husband & I had a pretty big falling out with his mother about 4 years ago...He basically cut her out of our life 6 months before our son was born. She has never met him...& she has only seen a picture of him once when we ran into her at the courthouse..other than his newborn pic that I sent her & she told me that it would be best if we didn't communicate. My husband didn't want me to show them his picture, but I was trying to do the right thing, & that is the repsponse I got. She has not sent him one single card or present since he's been in this world..nearly 3 years! She has another "grandson" that is alledgedly my husbands, but there is a pending DNA test for him. My husband wants me to send one of our son's Christmas picture greeting cards to her..basically so she can stare at the picture knowing that it's her biological grandson that she seems to want nothing to do with. I don't really want to send it to her because I don't want her to take it as "everything must be ok"?
2006-12-08 07:48:02 · 9 answers · asked by mommy2kaleb04 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If i were you I wouldnt even want her around my son ( no matter how much of a mother if she still a mother to your husband) it ok to leave here out of this. Just pretend she doesnt exist like she has with your family
2006-12-08 07:52:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whew! You folks have some serious issues. All you can do is continue to offer an olive branch and hope for the best. I do not know what transpired between all of you that created this animosity, but it sounds like your husband may be having second thoughts about the whole situation.
Now, let me put this to you in a way that you might understand. Suppose that you raise that little son of yours to adult-hood and at some point, his new wife and he have an altercation with you ( it does not matter what the problem is). Would you want to go for the rest of your life without ever seeing your son again? And if he had children, would you want to live out your life without ever laying your eyes on them. Really think about this from HER point of view.
Please do not let this go without resolution soon. If your mother-in-law were to die tomorrow, your husband might never forgive himself, and he could carry it around for the rest of his life.
2006-12-08 08:03:55 · answer #2 · answered by Darlene G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say send her the card. Maybe it will make her want to know him. It's really sad that you have estranged yourselves from each other. I hope that you can reconcile someday. Everyone has faults, some people have worse faults than others. What if the unthinkable happens and the mother-in-law dies? Then your husband may be filled with regret for not reconciling with her. I think the most important things in life are the relationships you have with people. You should overcome this falling-out. People have come together after worse situations, I am sure. I hope everything works out for you.
2006-12-08 07:55:56 · answer #3 · answered by Kate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send the card and see what develops.
If she want to part of your son's life, now is her chance to reconsider.
If there is no response after this, you tried your best and then you know she is not interested.
When you mail the card, make sure you send it certified with a return receipt.
The receipt will come back to you to confirm that she signed for it.
This way she can't try to to tell you down the road that she never received it.
She is really pretty childish, if she wants to be angry at you and your husband thats ok, but her grandson should not be part of her anger.
2006-12-08 07:56:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What harm is there in sending the picture?
Your husband must feel really conflicted and crappy about what has happened, it looks like he has been on your side the whole time. If he asks, send the picture, do it for your husband not the banshee who birthed him. Try really hard not to make him feel any worse about the situation than he all ready does.
2006-12-08 07:52:30 · answer #5 · answered by Sara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a callerID and do not reply the telephone. Best answer. I used to have a type of monster-in-legislation. Get rid of the husband and the monster-in-legislation went away. Voila! I do not know why can we ought to have a mom out legislation. They are extra crisis than valued at it. What are you able to do should you are not able to manage the in legislation? Some Christian are the phoniest folks on the earth.
2016-09-03 10:11:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of the middle of this before you go crazy. If your husband wants to send a picture of the son, let him do it. Whatever is wrong is between the two of them. Let them work it out instead of triangulating through you, or I guarantee you, you will get hurt.
2006-12-08 07:52:26 · answer #7 · answered by Buffy Summers 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you don't want to send it don't , go with your gut feeling on this, she sounds like a waste of space
2006-12-08 07:50:41 · answer #8 · answered by jinx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep her out of her life....i do see your husband's point...however....to let her see what she's missing out on....but it probably won't phase her either..so I see your side as well....either way, keep her out of your lives.
2006-12-09 08:56:10 · answer #9 · answered by celeste_moon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋