Why is it that every relationship I have ends in heartache?
It's not like I cheat, or lie, or anything, but every guy I'm with will leave me because it doesn't work for them.
What am I doing wrong?
Will I ever get someone to love me for me?
2006-12-08 07:42:34 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Most importantly, don't ever change yourself for a man. Someone will love you for who you are eventually. So far, it sounds like you have not met the right men, because when you do, he will stick by you and care for you, because you're not a liar, or cheater; your loyalty is valuable.
2006-12-08 07:47:19 · answer #1 · answered by tartepout 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you sound a little desperate, and if you project that, it's a real turnoff.
Are you really needy? Do you call them constantly? Do you have low self-esteem? Are you wishy washy? Do you have no opinion of your own but instead just go along with whatever they want?
This is my advice to you: Be open, but hold enough back to be a little mysterious. Be loving, but don't always be available. Be agreeable, but take the lead once in a while. Be sexy, but don't be slutty. Be hopeful, but don't be desperate.
If you want someone to love you for you, then do things that you like to do and look for men there. Don't go to where the men are and then act surprised when you share no common interests. The more comfortable you are with yourself, the more comfortable others - including men - will be with you.
2006-12-08 15:53:07 · answer #2 · answered by Neerdowellian 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you and I need to hang out sometimes because i feel the same way! It hurts because it's like you ask yourself constantly what is so wrong with me that I can't keep someone! just be yourself, and all in good time you will finally meet the right guy. Don't give up hope, keep your head up, and just keep in mind that they weren't the right guys for you. You haven't done anything wrong,.
2006-12-08 15:46:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually when it doesn't "work" it because the woman is not feminine. She can look great, have a great body and have tons of great makeup on her face, but unfortunately there are a lot of women in this country that have no clue how to be feminine.
2006-12-08 15:46:40 · answer #4 · answered by yibpub 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was the same way.... I was the one who was always left for some other girl. My heart was bleeding! I avoided approaching the guys and have them start approaching me, and sooner or later they will start noticing who you really are. Like my mom always said "If you listen more than you speak, you will realize how smarter you gotten and take it to heart."
2006-12-08 15:50:17 · answer #5 · answered by Cristy M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wish i could answer that for you....if i could, i would know what is wrong with me too!! i am in the same boat. when you find out...let me know too!!! until then, just be happy with yourself. you have to love yourself and put you 1st. it is not being selfish....the only person that can really make you happy is you. enjoy each day and take one day at a time!! :-)
2006-12-08 15:49:23 · answer #6 · answered by 8675309 jenny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do they tell you why they are leaving and is there a pattern??
You should ask them... and pay attention to the answer... You may not like it but it is what it is darlin...
You can't fix it if you don't know what's broken...
2006-12-08 15:46:01 · answer #7 · answered by gjm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋