I have been living with this man for little over 2 yrs, and we both were married when we moved in together, well i am divorced and he hasn't even filed and occasonally he slides around with his wife on the side and lies to me even though i have caught him over there. He only goes sees her when he is beyond drunk and he is with me the rest of the time, what should i do about this?
2006-12-08 07:41:13 · 20 answers · asked by baby_elmo_70633 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Listen and listen good. You can either put up with his crap or move out and move on. I would choose the latter of the two, but that's just me. You started this relationship based on lies and deception. What do you really expect to gain from a situation like this other than more lies and deception. This man is having his cake and eating it too with a side of ice cream thrown in for good measure. He doesn't love you or his wife. His actions make that as clear as day. The only person who is happy is him. Do the smart thing and find someone who can give all of himself to you.
2006-12-08 07:52:12 · answer #1 · answered by Billie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok honestly, if you got divorced for this man you may have made a huge mistake!! Sorry...but he is a dog. Hasn't even filed yet?!?! Thats ridiculous and obviously he wants his cake and to eat it too, stay married and have you on the side...thats bullshit and is only bringing you down. I would get out quickly...honestly, I know it may seem like you have to make it work if you divorced your husband for him, but this guy probably will not change and it'll be better for you in the long run to cut your losses no matter how great they may seem and get out. Staying will only make his behavior seem ok and he will continue to use you and believe he has the power in this relationship.
2006-12-08 15:46:12 · answer #2 · answered by TheHottestChristinaYouKnow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out. Plain and simple. You are putting yourself at risk for STD's and emotional distress.
Are you two a couple?? Friends with benefits? You should really talk to him and see what you two have going on. If its nothing serious and your are willing to be FWB, without getting your feelings involved then you should just go with it.
But it seems to me that you might be having feelings for this man since you have posted this question. Really, you should just move on. No woman deserves to be 2nd place to any man, ever!
You deserve so much better! You need to start loving yourself and respecting yourself much more, if your letting him do this to you
2006-12-08 15:47:45 · answer #3 · answered by BuNNY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want him having sex with his ex-wife then you need to leave him flat out. If he wants to be with you he wouldn't go over there with her. You can do better than this guy. In the meantime, work out, dress nice, use a vibrator, and at some point you'll find another boyfriend who treats you right.
2006-12-08 15:44:30 · answer #4 · answered by Cynthia W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't want to be with a man who gets drunk much less sleeps with his ex wife or any other woman. Why in the world would you stay?
Ladies - THERE ARE GOOD MEN OUT THERE!
2006-12-08 15:46:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave his ***! See, he did it to her with you, he will do it to you with someone else (or apparenlty her). You can't do that to someone you are married to and made a commitment with.....if you aren't happy, then get out of the marriage, but never cheat. You deserve what you get, and so does he. You made you be dnow lie in it.
2006-12-08 15:44:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you both live in a place but can't handle eachother and if he is with someone else why don't u tell him to move out? maybe that could solve the problmes bettween u too.
2006-12-08 15:44:08 · answer #7 · answered by Shadow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no place to start....
Wipe your whole slate clean and start from scratch.
Maybe join the witness protection program and start completely over.
Good Luck
2006-12-08 15:44:48 · answer #8 · answered by C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out, he doesn't sound like he's worth the trouble.
2006-12-08 15:49:46 · answer #9 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of the slob.
2006-12-08 15:43:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋