I constantly hear people talking about wanting their ex-es back! I don't get it! Why would someone want someone who DOES NOT want them??!! Wouldn't it be better to find someone who WANTS YOU too??
My philosphy is, "Ex-es are ex-es for a reason ~~ it didn't work out!!"
2006-12-08 07:28:52 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
also, wouldn't it be more productive to MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE??
2006-12-08 07:29:12 · update #1
I agree! I have that problem right now with my bf ex wife! She thinks she wants him back but knows it wouldn't work out cause of their past history. They were married for 12 yrs, but together for 17. She can't let it go. It's been 7 years since SHE left HIM. She is angry and jealous that he has moved on with me. He moved me into his rented house. Now we've bought our own home along with a new boat and car. She is going insane about me staying with him. So now she's got his entire family against him by telling them horrible lies about their brother. And for what?! Does she really think he'd take her back after 7 years of divorce?! They had domestic violence in their marriage. She stabbed him in his arm before! She use to punch him in his chest during fights and he'd have to hold her arms to her side to keep frm getting hurt. Why would she want him back?! I have been divorced 3 times due to domestic violence and I have NEVER wanted any of them back! And for the reason you stated...they are ex'es for a REASON. Leave it in the past and move on! Let your ex have a new relationship! Be happy for them...that means they are leaving YOU alone! Get busy making a new happy life with out that bad seed in it. Some ppl just aren't a good match. Accept that as just that and move on!
2006-12-08 07:36:56 · answer #1 · answered by luv2bake 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On the face of it, the answer is, "Well, DUH."
But at the same time... there must have been something that attracted you to your ex in the first place, and that may still be there. Even if you KNOW it isn't going to work, the way his eyes crinkle when he smiles, or the way her hips sway back and forth as she walks, are still going to punch you in the heart (or, in the case of the hips example, maybe a bit lower down the body...) just as hard as when you were together.
But your philosophy makes life a lot cleaner -- when you know the relationship is finished, let it be FINISHED and get on with your life.
The only thing I'd suggest is to be aware that you may still get that "tingle" when you see, talk to or think about your ex. In such cases, the best thing to do is to acknowledge that tingle, thank it for sharing, and ask it to sit down and shut up and let you get on with your life.
2006-12-08 15:42:14 · answer #2 · answered by Scott F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, but many ex es become ex es be cause thei ex es did not know what they wanted, so when those ex es find out that their ex es were not so bad after all, they start to regret their decision to dump their ex es, and try to get their ex es back, gee I hope I did not use the word ex es to much.
2006-12-08 16:18:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, "x" is an "x" for a reason. And we don't have to have someone in our lives to make us whole.
Put yourself first, be happy and healthy.. then the "right" someone will come along.
2006-12-08 15:32:14 · answer #4 · answered by mkb80 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes! i totally agree with you. there is a reason that it didn't work out the first time, and the problems are still gonna be there!! glad someone else sees the light!
2006-12-08 15:31:18 · answer #5 · answered by *KiM* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nah
2006-12-09 00:52:30 · answer #6 · answered by Kelly Bundy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends how relationship ended.
2006-12-08 15:30:56 · answer #7 · answered by question man 911 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋