Getting Married and I Cheated?

Question

I'm getting married two weeks from tomorrow. Last weekend at my bachelor party of 20 guys, I shared a room with 3 of my groomsmen. We were all really trashed and ended up having some male on male sexual encounters together. I don't think that I need to go into detail in regards to what happened in that hotel rooms that night. You can use your imaginations. We all agreed the next day to keep this little episode under wraps. I sorta feel guilty about it. Should I just forget about it and move on or should I tell my fiance what happened? If anything is it even considered cheating? Any advice

Answer 1

Can I forward this to JERRY SPRINGER for you?

Answer 2

Well, any way you look at it, it's still cheating. Now, I don't know if you are gay or bi or whatever because I don't personally know you, but I would suggest letting her know. The truth has a way of coming out eventually. You could be married for 10 years and if it eventually comes out you could loose the best thing that ever happened to you. I would tell her.

And also think about what you did. What it just curiosity? What it a desire that you think could come back or arise in a different situation? Do you really want to get married? These are some questions to make sure you know the answers to because she will most likely be asking you these things after hearing about it.

I truely hope you do the right thing. Honest is the key to a great marriage. Otherwise, you are livining a life with a time boom of secret information that can explode when you are not expecting it.

Answer 3

i do hope this is not a serious question, but if it is, i will answer it to the best of my ability.
you said you had some male on male sexual encounters. this tells me you have homosexual tendencies. this is not necessarily a bad thing, you are simply curious. It does not mean that you are gay either, it just means that you tried it... my man had been with another man as wel, and i dont hold this against him....
do you feel as though this is a curiosity that you would persue again... did you enjoy it? would you be with another male or fantasise about it?
being cheated on is one thing, but to be cheated on with another man is something else. i certainly hope you used condoms, because of obvious reasons.
look, i cant tell you whether or not its a good thing to tell your soon to be wife... because this is personally your choice.
you do realise that once you tell her what you did, the wedding will be called off. do you want to marry this woman?
can you trust the men you slept with to keep quiet?
i do not respect cheating, no matter what the situation, someone will always get hurt no matter what.
you just need to ask yourself if you ever plan on cheating again (with either males or females)... and if you think you will... its best to call the wedding off now.
but if you truely believe that this was a terrible mistake, then i would consider asking different people to be your groomsmen, tell your fiance you had a fight with them... and never ever tell a single soul.

Answer 4

You need to tell her otherwise you will be living with this "episode" for the rest of your life. Not to be mean, but this situation isnt normal and it will eventually come out. Either your'e gay or bisexual. There's nothing wrong with that but be honest and upfront with your fiance. Nobody likes to be in the dark about anything. Especially with someone who's about to comitt the rest of their life to you. P.S- I hope you used protection if it went that far. Protect yourself. That's how women get AIDS from their husbands.

Answer 5

I don't care who it is if you are with someone else in that way besides the one you are suppose to marry yo are CHEATING!!! Getting drunk and not knowing what you were doing is such a COP-OUT!! It is pretty bad when you have cheated before you have even gotten married !! What is going to happen the NEXT time you get drunk. You need to tell her the truth NOW before she finds out about it later because trust me she will find out!!!!!

Answer 6

Things like that happen. It wasn't like you slept with the stripper or something. You guys experimented, and it's not going to help anything if you tell her. I guess technically it would be cheating b/c the encounter was sexual, and it is making you feel guilty. I would just keep it to myself and just call it experience. :)

Answer 7

Ouch poor girl, YES you definetly need to tell her. ITs not up to you to decided if the wedding should go on its up to her. Yes its considered cheating. Male or female, I think your's is a little worse becasue you did it at your bacholor party, whats wrong with you?? Please do your self a favor and tell your fiance she deserves to know and she should be able to decide what she wants to do with that information. Good Luck.

Answer 8

If you are telling her to make yourself feel better or less guilty - DON'T you are just making it worse for her! Cheaters seem to feel like if they tell their little dirty secrets everything will be better, they wont! Instead of you feeling guilty now you have upset her world!
Best advice I have is to not tell her move on with your life and learn from your mistake AND DON'T DO IT AGAIN!

Answer 9

yes it is called cheating, and best you make up your mind as to what you are going to do, because if more than one person knows then it is already in the wind, I would also recommend you talk to some one about your sexual preferences, as if this happened once it can and will happen again, and you wife to be needs to be advised of any potential diseases, and other thing

Answer 10

Just because you tried it doesnt make you gay, so dont listen to those other people.
If my husband told me that he slept with another guy.. I actually wouldnt be mad. If it was another woman.. id be wanting to bite off his penis and kill him.
Girls are allowed to be bicurious and most people dont care. If a girl messes around with another girl once its just experimenting. Should be the same for guys.
Did you like it..? If you did you should tell her, and if she thinks its gross and is mad at you then shes not the girl for you. Maybe shell be like me and think its cool and later on down the marriage sex life would always be interesting.
If you didnt like it.. then don't tell her. If you didnt like it and theres no chance youll do it again.. drunk or not.. then forget about it.

Answer 11

Hmmm this is a hard one.. but I totally think she has a right to know, have u ever thought that maybe you are gay? Well I hope that you can work this out, if you really love her u should be honest with her. Good luck.