My husband likes to fantasize in the bedroom and have some roleplaying. He likes to think about me with other men and him watching or participating too. I am not sure what to think about that as does he think I am just a sex toy or does he really love me and just like to think about that as it turns him on?
2006-12-08 07:26:06 · 13 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
People have fantasies. Be happy he's playing them out with you. Many just repress them and live with a ho-hum sex life. Emphasis on PLAYING. If he shows up home from work with a guy he works with, a dozen condoms, and a camcorder, then you might want to repost this question. I will give you instructions on how to maintain balance whilst kicking his scrotum well into his thoraxic cavity.....
This has nothing to do with him loving you or not. His fantasies exist independently of his love for you. No, just because he has fantasies where he is objectifying you doesn't mean he sees you as a sexual object. It's a PART of his interior life.
Liken this to the butthead who cuts you off in traffic. Your fantasy of slamming his head repeatedly in his car door does not make you a murderer. Don't read too much into this!!!!!!!!
2006-12-08 07:36:52 · answer #1 · answered by lmcbuilder 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No there isnt a problem unless you make it one. My wife fantasized about having another woman in the bed with us. It was something she had been approached about years ago but was too afraid to go through with it. She discussed it with me about how she had always regretted not trying it out for years. I told her to do what made her comfortable and one night when a friend was over the subject came up and she appraoched me once again about doing it and I agreed and we done it and she loved it. Done it only once and the fantasy was fulfilled and no regrets. She got that hair out her behiney now and we discuss other things as well and in time we will do them.
2006-12-08 07:35:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's buttering you up to eventually do exacttly what he fantasizes about, that is if you're willing. I doubt he doesn't love you. He 's obviously is secure enough in your relationship to express to you that he'd like to see you with another man up close as it turns him on to think about it. That's a big step toward taking your sexual relationship in a whole other direction. Don't you fantasize about being with other men? Hell, he's giving you permission. Don't take it the wrong way. Roll with it. Aren't you curious??
2006-12-08 07:32:40 · answer #3 · answered by Add Man 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are 2 possibilities.
1) he thinks of you as a simple sex object.
2) He is in love with you, and feels that you deserve better than he can give you. He thinks that you are not satisfied with him, and thinks that you deserve more/better than he can give you.
The old if you love something set it free, if it returns it is yours,if it does not it never was.
2006-12-08 07:32:19 · answer #4 · answered by expandinghorizons69 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It’s kind of weird for him to fantasize you and other man. Usually husbands are kind of jealous with that. I don’t know how normal that can be.
2006-12-08 07:33:40 · answer #5 · answered by kathernva 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fantasizing is normal... it doesn't mean he doesn't love you...
here's some more info if you want to look into it:
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sextaboos/topics/0,,4th0,00.html?ice=ivl,searcht
2006-12-08 07:31:46 · answer #6 · answered by F.J. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its good that he is open enough to share his fantasies. Try sharing yours and communicating more with him about each of yours!! Better to have him share than search elsewhere to get his fantasies fulfilled!
2006-12-08 07:36:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
everybody have fantasies but depends of the fantasy there is a message behind ask a psychologist about the interpretation of that one,in my opinion if he loves more male presence with you that is talking about him more than you.
2006-12-08 07:30:08 · answer #8 · answered by ticoguana 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Quit thinking more into this than you need to. Your not a toy.
2006-12-08 07:28:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
its natural... its great that he uses you to turn him on. most married men use other women to turn them on. he loves you, and you should appreciate the fact that he tells you what he likes...
2006-12-08 07:30:34 · answer #10 · answered by smitty4626 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋