Everytime i drive one i have the urge to go into it, even for just a few minutes. I can resist the urge around 75 percent of the time, but when i cant I'll go in there and spend money foolishly on lapdances. i dont spend much really (50-60 at the most) but im on a tight budget and am scared this might hurt me in the future. Also, I feel that this addiction is going to cause me to cheat on my significant other. What do I do?
2006-12-08 07:25:44 · 14 answers · asked by Godz Handz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
did your moma ever tell you about girls like that,grow up and find yourself a respectable women
2006-12-08 07:28:36 · answer #1 · answered by resigned 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Almost everyone in life suffers from some kind of addiction. Some people its porn, some its alcohol, some its drugs etc... Spending 50 or 60 bucks each time you go sure adds up monetarily, but what it more destructive is the impact that it is having on your personal life. If it is affecting the relationship with your significant other, then I suggest maybe some addiction counseling. So many people have a social stygma against any kind of therapy (thinking it is for crazy people only, NOT TRUE!) If going to strip clubs as taken over your life, then it is time to find some help. Maybe you are using these strip clubs as an outlet for deeper issues unresolved in your life. At any rate, I am sure some professional addiction counseling would help a lot.
2006-12-08 07:31:05 · answer #2 · answered by Waytomanyopinions! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On the upside, it shouldn't cause you to cheat. Those strippers only want your money - they don't want to have sex with you. If they were to start a relationship with you, you'd stop paying and they don't want that. On the other hand, if one will have sex with you for money, that's prostitution and that's an entirely different, much worse addiction.
Can you perhaps get your hands on some porn, and whenever you have the urge to go into a strip club, you instead go home and rub one out while watching them? When I got the urge to hit strip clubs, I usually "took matters into my own hands" and that cured the urge. Once the big head is doing the thinking, you remember things like the fact that you don't have money to burn...
2006-12-08 07:36:46 · answer #3 · answered by Neerdowellian 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been going to a strip club for 6 months about 3-4 times a Week.
Yeah its an addiction but i have mine controlled. i have learned that before i go in i leave any type of credit card or debit card in my car or at home. the only thing that i take in is the money im willing to spend, id and a couple packs of smokes. If your wanting to totally quite its going to be hard i find it easier to start off by carring less money on you so even if your tempted you realize you don't have the money to do it.
2006-12-10 15:38:34 · answer #4 · answered by carkid_1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you have a problem with addiction, and the first step is realizing it. good job, there! look on the 'net or your local community center, there are support groups for people just like yourself. seeing a therapist may be out of your rpice range unless you have insurance that covers that sort of thing.
one thing that might help you fight this addiction is to ask yourself how your significant other might feel about this problem. if you think he/she would be very hurt by this kind of behavior, that might prevent you from doing it in the future. not to mention, since you are lucky enough to have a significant other, why waste the money on girls who mean nothing to you? why not instead spend that money on dinner or a gift on your significant? i wish you the best of luck getting over this addiction before it becomes a real problem.
2006-12-08 07:32:43 · answer #5 · answered by iittghy? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it's very brave of you to come out and admit to this.
you've got to find out what REALLY drives you to go to strip clubs....then work on that. is your relationship lacking something in bed? do you crave the attention? does your partner know about your addiction?
speak to someone you can trust...something like this requires support and understanding from your loved ones.
the best of luck to you and yours
2006-12-08 07:29:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with going to strip clubs.I wouldnt mind if my boyfriend went to them.Just dont give the strippers ALL your money. Have some self control dammit!.Good luck...
2006-12-08 07:29:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop going! The difference between men and dogs is the fact that men can control themselves. Unless you consider yourself a dog, you should be able to stop going...
2006-12-08 07:27:52 · answer #8 · answered by kisme86 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go seek Help. talk to a sex Therapist maybe
2006-12-08 07:29:18 · answer #9 · answered by MR Stacy Robinson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay if u think that then you must be a pervert because that jsut is not right and it;s not right for the girls that strip.
2006-12-08 07:34:47 · answer #10 · answered by XoXo.ShyEyez.XoXo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋