Discipline help?

Question

What can be done with a 4 1/2 yr old that thinks time outs are funny and what she did wrong is also funny. Also, as a last resort we have tried spankings and that made NO impact at all. HELP!!

Answer 1

well with my daughter I have different disciplines set up for different behavior problems. Some warrant a spanking, others a time out, others like a smart mouth warrant soap in the mouth. Have you tried that? Very effective. I put just a tiny bit in, enough to let her taste it. I usually have to rub it on her lips or teeth as she won't open for it. I make her leave it on for about 30 seconds to 1 minute, then I give her a washcloth to wipe it off with, and a glass of milk (takes the taste away better than water). She stops acting up REAL quick!

Answer 2

Out Smart her.................
When she does something wrong, make her so something she doesnt like to do. Clean the cat litter box, scrub the shower, wether it needs it or not. mop, vaccuum, take the TV away and anything she likes, for a certain amount of time and stand firm. If you don't she is not going to believe YOU MEAN BUSINESS.
If spankings dont work, be extreme with making her do chores she doesnt like. Maybe pour her legos out all 375 pieces and scatter them around and make her get them up. She will scream and cry about it all the while doing it, but after about 2 times she will know you mean business. Pull all the books off her shelves and make her put them back. Make her give 1 item to a charity bag thats put well out of her reach for unfortunate children since she doesnt appreciate the life she has and a discipling parent. BE A DRILL SARGENT MOMMY! & no more spankings.

Answer 3

My son did too until I put him on the 3rd stair as his time out and made him face the wall.
Every time he moved or turned around, he has an extra minute tacked on. Start with 4 minutes, since she's 4 and go up from there.
You need to make this a seclusion, boring thing. A stair or corner is perfect.
Before the time out, explain why X is not ok and why we don't do X
Then administer the time out.
After time out is over, you say "alright _name___, you need to say you are sorry for doing X" If she won't, then explain why it was hurtful, and then she gets another time out.
Sometimes this can take hours, and you want to pull your hair out, but she will get it. She can't have any thing on the stair or corner with her.
Remember, it's key that she doesn't see you, or anyone else, but you need to be close enough and sneaky enough to know when she moves.
Good luck, you aren't alone!

Answer 4

Did daddy spank her yet??? My 4 year old was like that except she did laugh but she just didn't listen. I spanked her and it wasn't really a big deal, but oh when i let daddy do the spanking it was a totally different story. It wasn't so funny then and YES it was a big deal. He has only had to do it twice and since then I've been able to just say " ok if you don't stop I'm telling daddy and I'll let him deal with you when he gets home".. If he spanks hard and firm...not killing her but let her feel the burn!!!! then she will remember and never want that feeling again. Believe me it works...nothing like a nice spanking.. I never got them when i was little so I never believed in giving them, but after seeing the results...oh, now...I'm a firm believer!!!

Answer 5

Obviously spanking doesn't work but you will get alot of people on here telling you to just spank harder or use a belt or wooden spoon. That is abusive and lazy parenting. This site below works great for us.

Answer 6

Sounds like she needs some serious alone time, without toys or other diversions, even if she is locked in her room for a period of time. Check on her regularly (without her knowing it, of course), just to make sure she hasn't hurt herself, etc.

Spanking (while not a sign of lazy parenting) may not work in this case--because you run the risk of going too far, which would be abusive.

NEVER NEVER bribe the kid or make any kind of deals with her--you are the parent--what you says goes--end of story. These things should not be negotiable.

Answer 7

I don't start my timer until my child is in the corner with hands at his side and face in the corner...if he starts to "jack around" then the timer is stopped...I have even added a few minutes to it now and again. You should never talk to a child who is in time out...that is exactly what she is doing...trying to get your attention and make a game out of it. If she knows you are serious...then she will stop....but when you send her to the corner, make sure you speak in a clear but stern voice!

Answer 8

turn of the TV take away what ever toy she is playing with and as firmly and as seriously as you can say NO, this is Not how you will behave, sit her down for 5 min and if she laughs, spank until it isn't funny anymore.

Answer 9

My daughter has always responded best to having her favorite toys being taken away. It was usually a stuffed animal. If she threw a temper tantrum, I kept taking more toys away until she calmed down. I used to throw them away or give them away but then I ended up buying more so now I give her a chance to earn them back with good behavior.

Answer 10

I think the issue is in attention. She loves it and she enjoys it. Good or Bad... I would suggest trying to be stern without being overly emotional either way.