Do you take insults, disrespectful & ignorant answers here as an opportunity to grow?

Question

"They may have said some things out of ignorance, but if we react to them angrily, who's more ignorant? If we make a lot of noise, just like them, what will be the opinion of others around us? We should take care to maintain our balance even when other people oppose us or speak ill of us...It is an opportunity to measure our patience." ~ Mata Amritanandamayi (Amma)

I take these as opportunities to gauge where I stand with my tolerance, patience and respect. If I still feel bad when I receive those, then I know I still have more inner work to do. That is the blessing itself. Do you do the same too? This is what it means to practice tolerance, love, peace and nonjudgments which are common principles underlying most religions.

Answer 1

I love that, so much wisdom. I do take it as a chance to help both me and the disrespectful person grow. Thank you for sharing, friend...

“He who abuses his abuser is the worse of the two. To refrain from retaliation is to win a battle hard to win. If one knows that the other person is angry but refrains from anger oneself, one does what is best for oneself and the other person also. One is a healer of both”
- Siddhartha Gautama -

- Atmadeepo Bhava -

Answer 2

With each answer I read, I assign a mental age to the writer, and treat them accordingly.

There are huge numbers of 3,4, and 5 year olds here. They are mentally too immature to understand things, and there's no reason to hate innocent children, so I more or less ignore them.

There are as many, if not more, adolescents. They have the potential to learn, but can also be silly, obnoxious and insulting. I treat them like you'd treat any annoying teen... with a degree of latitude. But, if they get too far out of line you have to reign them in.

The are a good amount of young adults. Half are mentally arrested, beer swilling idiots or retards (in many varieties!) I basically pity them, and ignore them (in that order.) The other half are genuinely interesting, eager, and like to learn and teach. I like that group.

Then there are the older, cynical idiots. These people can be incredibly infuriating, because they're often intelligent and wise, yet they can really push your buttons (I probably bounce in and out of this category myself) You just have to accept them, and when appropriate feel sorry for them.

In all this insanity, there are a small number of intelligent, polite people who ask intriguing questions and give thought provoking answers. They are the reason I come here.

Answer 3

Wonderful question and attitude.

After taking part of my lunch to read and answer some questions on Y!A the other day, and still irritated by some intolerant thing somebody wrote in response to a perfectly innocent question, I stopped off at a restaurant I'd never been to before. As I was going in the front door, I saw a sticker displayed boldly on the window that read "One Nation Under God." It struck me as a belligerent, in-your-face, up-yours kind of statement, and I started to turn around and spend my money elsewhere. Then I thought, "No, darn it. Do you believe in freedom of expression or not?"

Answer 4

i just ignore any bad reactions from people, unless they are actually within reason. most of the people on this site have been really good and kind and deserve my respect. there have only been a couple that have been disrespectful or right down filthy to me. i dont mind opposing opinions, that is a good thing. yes it helps me grow and think and learn different ways and thoughts. i enjoy hearing all the answers and opinions of the people on here. i am 54 and still learning from all ages and types of people. i love the younger ones on here they are really special, and they have some very funny stories and jokes, and very healthy and thought provoking opinions. thank- you all on this site for giving me a very good time, making me laugh and soimetimes cry with you. and helping me and others on here to learn worthwhile lessons. merry christmas.

Answer 5

I try to. Sometimes, when people insult my religion without caring to learn about it, and then there are 50 responses of other people agreeing, I feel as though they are disrespecting me personally and it makes me upset.

I try not to let it bother me, though, because there are plenty of people in real life who want to learn and grow and are tolerant, so I do my best not to worry about the people on cyberspace.

Yours is a refreshing attitude, though.

Peace, Sofi

Answer 6

I'm a Christian, and i know i do. Ive been thinking a lot about it actually. I know i've thought about responding to some of the posts in less than Christian ways, but i try to stop and question my motives and think about what i'm doing. I think there is a huge opportunity for growth here.

Answer 7

i don't think of you're being particular sufficient. for my section, as a skeptic I supply questions the solutions they call for. of course there are numerous disrespectful people in this internet site and clearly it fairly is a type of leisure for them. there is to not be performed approximately that. on the different hand, in actual actuality a extensive proportion of what passes for "questions" are the two statements of religion, or statements of dismay approximately different's ideals (or non-ideals). including a question mark on the top does not substitute the character of the fact. Proselytizing may well be offensive and violates the spirit of a Q&A communicate board’s purpose. There are additionally disparate stages of type with admire to what gets pronounced. that's in lots of cases aggravating. think of a non secular individual who has taken person-friendly classes in biology. Now think he/she encounters the a million,678th question with the embedded text cloth: "If we developed from monkeys, how come there are nonetheless monkeys?" How can one not factor out that slightly extra education is named for, or that biology is nice a controversy of the technological expertise section? is this seen as an insult?

Answer 8

Angry, hateful posts are a good reminder to me to be patient, tolerate, and curious about faiths other than my own.

Now the posts that are obviously meant to be jokes, a waste of time, attention getters, etc... those only offer me lessons in patience cuz I think they are the biggest waste of time and space and brain cells known to this site.

Answer 9

Gandi kinda felt the same way against the british.They where killing his people and he still said to not react with violence. For some reason that reminded me of Gandhi, but thats a good way of being dont let people get to you

Answer 10

I fully agree with you. When a religious person accuses me of being evil, corrupt and immoral, I turn the other cheek because I know that he or she knows not of what they speak. Atheists, like religious people, can be as moral decent, kind and loving as religious people, and in many cases, more so.