My daugher is 8 years old and in the 3rd grade. She has friends that are girls, but also has friends that are boys. She seems to really want to be hanging out with the boys more. Ever since she was little her preference for friends seems to favor the boys. She has a sister that is 1 1/2 years younger than her and they play "girley" things and it's not a problem, but she also really loves playing rough with the boys. Today she is having one of her "boy" friends come over after school and I feel a little strange about it. He's not spending the night, but they will be playing in her room together and I'm not sure if I should pay extra special attention to them or if I should just treat it as if it were one of the girls. Am I overreacting and worrying for no reason? I need advise on this situation! Thanks!
2006-12-08 07:16:11 · 33 answers · asked by jamie_0778 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Have her leave the door open so you can check in on them. It's not unusual for your daughter to be like that; I've been like that myself for my whole life. Just pay a little more attention when she has a boy over and you'll be fine.
2006-12-08 07:18:21 · answer #1 · answered by Amigurl 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I was just like your daugher when I was younger. I am a heterosexual woman, and at an age that young (8 or 9?), I highly doubt there is anything sexual going on between your daughter and her male friends. But, you're the parent, and you have every right to supervise their play, just for the reason that you feel uncomfortable.
She also may have a hard time relating to other girls, as I did, and still do now. I always found girls to be materialistic and shallow, and it was rare that I could find one that was not. Even at that young an age. She might be able to use some assistance from you in acquiring female friends. Personally, my mother always told me not to trust girls, and I'm sure that had a huge part in my situation.
2006-12-08 07:27:23 · answer #2 · answered by lovebluenfluff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mothers have instincts, trust them, but don't smother her. If she can be good friends with boys she'll have a better chance at being in a healthy relationship with them when she's older. Leave the door open and walk by from time to time. But don't smother her. Every child is different, just because she relates to boys doesn't mean a thing, not good or bad. It's just the way she is. Don't try to change her, just let her know that you love and support her, and make sure she's safe. My little sister is nine and she gets along with boys much better than with girls, and I think that's fine. It's just her personality.
2006-12-08 09:32:53 · answer #3 · answered by Heidi 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't worry about it. It's good that she is able to be completely girl and completly not...she can experience a lot of things that way. I had a lot of friends that were girls when i was little but had TONS of friends that were boys...it went on through highschool like this. I think i had more guy friend then girl friends..it didn't make me any less girly..and really there were just friends. Im now a happy mommy of a beautiful toddler girl..that had girl and boy friends. Your daughter is young..if you feel weird tell her to keep her door open..and you can randomly check in..bring snacks...whatever...it will only be weird if you make it weird...and you never know...maybe his parents feel the same...having there son over playing at some girls house =)
2006-12-08 08:36:07 · answer #4 · answered by kora_tori 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't worry you said shes only 8 so what you do is you have her keep her bedroom door open and you just check on her every 15-30min. That way you can keep your self together and don't worry so much just let her have fun. After a little while ask them if they want a snack. Also tell them the rules like no rough housing if they want to play house tell them to be brother and sister or even just friends but most of all let them be kids.
2006-12-08 07:52:29 · answer #5 · answered by littleangelof5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-05 01:33:31 · answer #6 · answered by lashbrook 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Overreacting, because right now you are thinking the worst of your child and your parenting skills. Trust her enough to know that you've taught her well about whats approprate and whats not. Shes only 8. If she were my child I would have no worries about her being friends with some boy her age.
Do you know this boys parents?? That helps in the situation, when friends want to go over to friends houses.
2006-12-08 07:21:26 · answer #7 · answered by Kandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be too concerned lots of girls prefer boys to girls at that age. I always had way more male friends than girlfriends. Leave the bedroom door open or have them in a family area. If it's too quiet then go check on them(you don't want to embarass her if there is no harm in their playing. At that age sex it probably the last thing on their mind.
2006-12-08 07:27:07 · answer #8 · answered by sxy_tang 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was that age, all my close friends were boys. I was the only girl invited to their birthday parties. I loved it. I just thought the girls at my school acted kind of dumb and silly, and the boys I knew were straightforward and liked to do much cooler things like play marbles, catch tadpoles/snakes/frogs, and make up comic strips. Playing with these guys was WAY more fun than chasing them around the playground (which was what the girls in our class were interested in doing). Like your daughter, I also played with my Barbies and had a trunk of "dress-up" clothes. But I cherished my male friends, and continued to have a close group of guy pals all the way into high school. My mom encouraged this and loved having them over.
And by the way, in high school, when it came time for prom, none of those boys asked me-- because they "respected me too much." At the time I was hurt, but now that I'm an adult I think it was so sweet of them to think of me that way (I had no problem getting a date anyway). And later, they all admitted they'd wished they'd gone with me, because we ended up hanging out anyway, and they would have had a better time with me than with Debbie, who kept her nose in her compact all night (and didn't put out later, either)!
Cherish who your daughter is, and be happy that she likes to have friendships with both sexes. And I think it's always a good idea to leave the door open when playing, regardless of the child's gender.
2006-12-08 08:17:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why worry about it .. Your daughter just has more in common with boys then girls .. It seems she gets along better with boys .. I did at her age and I was a tomboy..
I rather play with the boys stuff it was cool ...
Just ask her to keep her bed room door open so you can check on her
2006-12-08 07:19:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋