my baby is 18 months old. she has always slept with me and my hubby. well we rock to her sleep and put her in her crib. she usually wakes up at around 6 when my hubby leaves for work and i just put her in bed with me and we fall back asleep. but sometimes she wakes up at around 2 and im too tired to put her in her crib. she wont fall asleep by herself. weve tried to put her in her crib and she cries so hard she throws up!! when she does sleep with us she doesnt like to cuddle she liks her space. so should we just get her , her own bed??? and if so how do i get her to go to sleep by her self!!???!!?? help!!!
2006-12-08 07:13:37 · 14 answers · asked by jrs wife! 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Sorry, I disagree with most answers as I don't believe in letting a child "cry it out". I would recommend you get her a bed, and in between now and then, mention it all the time, and get her looking forward to it! Then make sure you are going to be able to deal with tiredness a few days (take leave, get a family member to help etc.) From when the bed is there, always use it for her to sleep in, never take her back into your bed again, not even daytime naps.
Establish a good night time routine (really important) like dinner, bath, storytime, bed, and when she starts crying, pat her and tell her calmly that she is to go to sleep. If that does not work, give her a cuddle, and put her back to bed. No matter how many times you have got to do it, just keep on. She'll get tired eventually.
Keep calm and persist, have a soothing night light on so you don't have to keep on changing the lighting in the room, and expect it to take between 3 and 7 days before she settles.
Best of luck to you! Hope you'll soon work it out.
2006-12-08 08:01:54 · answer #1 · answered by sins 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem was letting her sleep with the both of y'all in the first place. It will be hard getting her to sleep in her own bed, but its something you need to break her of now. If shes able to climb on to furniture, such as the couch, y'all need to invest in a toddler bed with rails on the sides. Make sure y'all either only let her take 1 nap a day, or cut them out completely, give her a bedtime, have a night light in her room and just put her to bed. Shes going to get up several times before she falls asleep, but that wont last too long. If possible, just put a latch on the outside of her door to keep her locked in there until she falls asleep. Once she realizes that she cant get out of her room, she'll go to bed. Its going to be tough getting her to sleep in her own bed, but dont get frustrated while shes learning, or it'll make it harder on all of y'all.
2006-12-08 15:24:50 · answer #2 · answered by PfcsBaby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your going to have to let her cry in her own bed it sounds hars but its true. rock her to sleep bu put her in bed as soon as shes asleep and get her a bed dear shes too big for a crib now maybe put her bed in your room for awhile so she knows your close by sing to her ar play a sleep cd just keep trying untill you find something that works
2006-12-08 15:20:58 · answer #3 · answered by Catie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is going to be hard, and you are going to feel like the most abusive mother of the year, but you need to just draw the line--she sleeps in her own bed (vomit or no vomit, during the transition)--in her OWN room. She will thank you for it later in life, when she can be an independent woman, because if you start now, you will continue to provide her with ways to be independent.
2006-12-08 15:42:33 · answer #4 · answered by retorik75 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah i think that would be a good idea to get her own bed and put it next to your bed and then when she falls asleep in her own bed next yourse then after while then you can try to put it in her own room.
IF you dont want to do the own bed thing try few of these tips it works for my 18month
pat back until falls alseep in crib
let her cry for about 10 minutes but since yours throws up not sure if that one will work
put soft music/have tv on
give bath b4 bed
give snack b4 bedd
get in a quite place and rock her
put her in her own bed after she falls asleep in your bed.
have a night light in there i use black light the kind that goes on the wall.
good luck.
2006-12-08 15:18:39 · answer #5 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need a toddler bed for you daughter
Slowly put her in there for each nap she takes
When you put her to bed at night let her cry till she gets sick and clean her up and put her back in there .. Your going to have alot of tired nights but she will get the idea make sure you have a night light in her room
2006-12-08 15:16:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What did you expect. You trained her to be rocked asleep and to not be alone. You are gong to have a hard time reversing it! That's why most people don't do it that way. It's hard on you and the child! You've caused yourself and your child unnecessary stress!
2006-12-08 15:20:36 · answer #7 · answered by wish I were 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off get her a bed of her own (not a crib) and lay down with her till she falls asleep.then go to your bed if she wakes up try again soon enough she will be in her bed by her self.. beleive me i have 4 little sisters that i have done it with..
2006-12-08 15:18:43 · answer #8 · answered by Katie *lil' phoenix* 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you have to take her back to bed every time. wait in her room until she falls asleep.
watch supernanny or one of the nanny shows to get more ideas.
it's really hard but it'll be better in the long run
not to rub it in but my 6 week old, won't sleep anywhere but her bed, she'll cry and cry. we put her in there and she stops and goes to sleep
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2006-12-09 11:32:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋