When a guy says he would love you if he was single what does it mean?

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When a guy says he would love you if he was single what does it mean?
i was dating a guy for a while we both were very physically attracted to one another and things broke up as i was upset about my job etc a little needy at the time...he always stares at me when we are out and the other day i apoligised to him and he said i was one of the most lovely people he had met and that initially he was intimidated by my job ( i have quite a high powered job and earn good money) he also said he thought i was gorgeous back then and still does, i said i was leaving and he kept on grabbing me and said he would love me...if he was single..When i chatted about one of my ex boyfriends he got jealous and said 'what about us?'. He has only just started to date someone else..i have always been infatuated with him and vice versa..what should i do should i ask him for a drink as friends, i think he could of beena potential one

Answer 1

this means he dosent really love you or like you, he's just trying to mess with you

Answer 2

You could ask him out for a drink as friends since he is dating someone. What a tough situation. Be careful though because he might be one of those guys who wants what he can't have. He probably loves you now. I don't think you can control who you fall in love with. He kind of makes it sound like if he were single he would flip a switch and the love would just turn on. That's the only thing I see wrong with the comment that he made. Best of Luck!

Answer 3

umm, sorry to say but he sounds like scary. To say "what about us" when you are not in a relationship together is a little wierd, unless you have been misleading him. If he is in a relationship but hitting on you, that means he's thinking about cheating on his girlfriend with you. And as we say once a cheater, always a cheater. Is that someone you want to be with? If he really wanted to be with you, he would have broken up with this other person already. What do you mean, needy? As in you needed support and reassurance? Thats not needy, that's being in a relationship. And if he was intimidated by your job, thats not going to change either, unless you have a different job than before. I'm sorry but my major was in Sociology/Psychology and this doesn't sound like you are all too knowledgable about what you want either. you need to make a clean break and think about what you want.

Answer 4

First off, you have no intentions of being just friends with him. Both of you have cheating on your minds. Do you really want someone who has to cheat on someone else to be with you?? The proper way for him to be with you, is to end the other relationship first. That shows respect (which is very important) to all involved. People get hurt and lives torn apart when cheating is going on..... always remember.......there is no future in dating a married man. Same could be said for one that is already involved in a relationship.

Answer 5

Well, if he is being truthful and that is a big "if" the only reason I can see for him saying that is that he is married. "I would love you if ..I was single,"can only mean one thing. He is married, or he is into a relationship with someone that is so meaningful to him that he feels "married". Now it could be he is just trying to flatter you, to obtain your favors. Love has to mean more than just a casual acquaintance. It is hard to see how he can think he would love you, unless he has spent enough time to really get to know you. I would watch out for this one, he sounds sneaky.

Answer 6

I have a system of yellow flags and red flags when it comes to various relationships in my life. If someone is a little overweight, for example, that's a yellow flag, because that can be changed and/or I might not mind it if other attributes are positive.

When someone who is in a relationship tells me I'm someone they would date, that is a red flag. First, it means the guy is likely only using you for his emotional/fantasy/sexual needs, because someone who respected you, wouldn't tease you when he wasn't able to make a commitment. Second, with very few exceptions, if the other woman ends up with the two-timer, he's likely to two time her too.

Answer 7

He's just resently dating so it can't be too serious. I'd say he's still anybody's game.
He's obviously interested in you giving he shows jealousy. I think he's using his relationship as an excuse to hide the fact that it's really your job that hinders his advancement towards you. go on out for drinks and subtly express that you like him no matter that you earn more than he does. Maybe he'll drop his guard.

Answer 8

He's basically telling you that he would be in love with you if he didnt already have someone else on the side. I would'nt get my hopes up for this guy....It seems like he's looking for a number two, and if you're not in the mood to be second then you might want to look elsewhere. Good luck.

Answer 9

take it from me kiddo.. this guy is just a smooth talker.. he knows you are a bit, as some people say, vulnerable and more easily manipulated.. my advice to you is to walk away from this guy and stay away.. of course you have to watchout for his ego.. most likely if you tell him goodbye his ego is going to cause him to do some or all of the following things.. stalk you, threaten you, try to show you up and belittle you.. this man is insecure and you don't want or need someone like that.. GET OUT NOW

Answer 10

Both of you sound confused and of week character! And the best for both of you would be to keep as far away from each other as possible!

There is lots of fish in the see as you ought to know!

Good luck

Answer 11

Run! Do not walk - away from this guy!!!! He's letting you know that he's up for a good time, but has no intentions of breaking off whatever relationship he's currently in.