He has a good job, money, 2 kids and 2 baby mamas. He proposed to both of them but they turned him down. They thought that he would change. He is active in both of his kids lives. We are both in love with each other. Please help I need your honest advice.
2006-12-08 07:04:23 · 22 answers · asked by Tiffany 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is not involved with his 2 kids mothers and I am also doing good for myself. I am in my 3rd year of school and have a great job. I am use to being around kids and I gave my best 5 years of my life to someone who just wasted it. I am truly happy with him and he is happy with me.
2006-12-08 07:16:54 · update #1
Well....I'm not going to say that it is wrong. I mean it entirely depends on what you think. Love is a special thing. But it may hold you back. I mean there are so many things that 19 year olds will want to do. You haven't even turned 21 yet. And it's going to be hard to do that when you are already being forced into a role model situation with 2 kids. Not to mention. You are probably going to get a lot of grief from everyone. And you have to wonder if that is something that you can deal with? You are going to get constant put downs. Is it worth it in the end?
2006-12-08 07:08:45 · answer #1 · answered by Champagne115 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Emotionally are you ready to become these 2 kids step mother at the age of 19? Also, how is the maturity level of your relationship? Can you two sit for hours, talk forever about any and everything, and just enjoy each others company? My grandfather was 10 years my grandmothers senior and they had a wonderful marriage. It all depends on the maturity of the individuals and how much each person is willing to work at it. Sometimes love just isnt enough. You will have to really work at the relationship through the hard times. As long as you are prepared, and you two are honest with each other, then I don't see why it wouldn't work in theory.
2006-12-08 07:26:25 · answer #2 · answered by Waytomanyopinions! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be happy to answer this questions. I was a 32 year-old woman who mutually had the hots for a 19 year-old guy. (Still do) He seemed to think that it was okay, but I had some serious reservations. I kept thinking, he was only 17 and 18 a couple of years ago. He's still a kid. Even though he is very mature for his age, I couldn't relate to Mary Kay Latourneau (teacher who hooked [raped] her student and is now married to him). The whole mentality of people who don't understand the difference between a teen and a 30 plus is weird to me.
I'd advise against it. When I was nineteen, my man was 40. Nice guy, but he just kept pushing marriage...I was 19 for goodness sakes--still someone's teenage kid.
2006-12-08 07:16:37 · answer #3 · answered by kerber22 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. You need to have your own life, before you get pulled into his. You're only 19. You jsut graduated. Go to college(or work. w/e you choose) and meet other people. You may have never even seen the REAL world yet. Also, you'll have to take on the responsibility of 2 children, AND their mothers. Try to find yourself. It may have been romantic in Jane Eyre(Fantastic book by Charlotte Bronte) to be married to a man whose 13 years older, but you just became an adult. Try to be with youreslf for awhile.
2006-12-08 07:10:34 · answer #4 · answered by QueenofLeon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The age thing doesn't matter one bit - it doesn't matter that he's 32 and you're 19.
What DOES matter is his two "baby mamas" and the kids he has with them. How involved is he with those two women? Is he still having sex with one or both of them? Are they going to butt in to your life ("baby mama drama")?
That's the real problem, not the age thing!
2006-12-08 07:08:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Age is a matter of mind, my child, if you don't mind, it doesn't matter. Besides the age difference is the LEAST of your worries... 2 kids and the 2 mamas will be the biggest problem in your relationship.
2006-12-08 07:13:57 · answer #6 · answered by Sparrow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say age ain't nothing but a number but it depends on the maturity of each individual. He has experienced more in life than you have and he knows some of the tricks of the trade. If you feel that you can handle it then go for it.
2006-12-08 07:15:03 · answer #7 · answered by God's Child 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has too much baggage....also you are a bit young ...so i would say...it wouldnt work out... if you wanna prove me wrong...email me back when you are 25 yrs old and you are still with the babies daddy...as you grow older and gain more wisdom and maturity ...you will have a better perspective on life....but then again ...its your life...do what you please...to each its own....best wishes and happy holidays to you!!!!
2006-12-08 07:16:43 · answer #8 · answered by nfocuz00 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is old enough to be your dad
i think ewwie but its your life
two women turned him down though...you shoudl think about that there must be a reason dontcha think???
they wanted him to change how? if you expect him to change dont even bother he wont.
but all in all
love knows no age
butthink about when you are 35-40 in your prime and he will be an old fart like 50 yrs old
2006-12-08 07:09:46 · answer #9 · answered by The Weed Fairy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not many adult adult males that age might date a woman that youthful and take it serios, i'm particular it would be super intercourse. The ony way may well be if the guy to be mature enought for a guy of that age team.
2016-12-11 05:04:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋