Life is tough, you didn't ask to be born.
So why do people have kids? Is it a selfish need to have a toy, a trophie, boredom?
I don't get why people want kids so much when they are a burden, and take so much personal sacrifice to raise them right?
2006-12-08 07:03:29 · 61 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
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2006-12-08 07:05:21 · answer #1 · answered by sonoftazont 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Hello Brains;
While I agree that having kids can seem like a burden, you really have to expeience the joy of being a parent to understand. I am a 38 year old man with a wife and two kids, the oldest of which is only 31/2. If you do the math, I'll be at least fifty something before my FIRST kid moves out! Insane, maybe. That also means that I didn't have my first kid until I was 34, so I had lived a fairly free and adventerous life for thirty four years. Not bad,eh? Now, I do regret not having had more time alone with my wife before we started having kids a little, but we tend to value our privacy and intimacy a little more than before, which makes it all that much better too! As far as what exactly my kids do for me?, well, to them, I'm better than Superman & Batman, maybe not Spiderman because he can spin webs! When I get home from work at six in the morning the squeeling and smiles make it worth going back to work! I get to mold what kind of people my children will be! I get to hold them, no matter how old they get when they are scared enough to need me. The one constant that people all admit is one of the reasons for having kids is this. They offer you unconditional love. You really really really have to mess up to have your kid not love you, and if you ever mess up that badly, you don't deserve children to begin with!!
Eric J Warren
www.ewarren1.qhealthzone.com
2006-12-08 07:44:50 · answer #2 · answered by SUNBURNTFROG 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"I don't get why people want kids so much when they are a burden, and take so much personal sacrifice to raise them right? " I say wrong. I'm raising my kids to be contributors to society. They're smart, respectful, and a whole lot of fun! There's been no sacrifice raising them. They add more joy and pleasure to my life and well as to others' lives. I think if you hung out with us for a day, you'd see why I had kids and what they already contribute to society. Wanna come over?
2006-12-08 07:07:41 · answer #3 · answered by bibliobethica 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's none of those things, not at all.
My kids are not a burden, and yes, it does take a lot of sacrifices to raise them.
My kids are living, breathing examples of love. My family means more to me than money, cars, or free time. There's nothing selfish in having children because if I was truly selfish I would be alone......going home to an empty house filled with stuff that does not fulfill me. (or love me!)
2006-12-08 07:38:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sure are asking the questions. How old are you? i think you are looking at life from the wrong side. are you the type to say the glass is half empty or half full? you only get one chance at life and you need to make the most of it. you need to do what makes you happy
having a child is really human nature. we all feel the need to reproduce at sometime even if it is one a moment. i use to think that i would never have kids and that one day i though of how happy i am that i am here and how much of a joy it would be to show that to someone else. you can't Fraze the purpose life in a paragraph or even in a 5000 page book you can only feel it.
2006-12-08 07:30:14 · answer #5 · answered by nick m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you think we have children is selfish. I had my three beautiful boys because I wanted them... I would have more if it was possible. I wanted my children with my husband because we knew they would be a blessing to our family. They all are growing up well, respectful and I am very proud of them. Matter of fact, I love my children and yes it is unfortunate they will have to suffer with some incidences in life, but that is part of becoming strong, and that is how they will learn. Do you think it was selfish for your parents to have you... if so, that is your opinion. Pehaps you have suffered. Not all children are suffering. Besides it is not the parents intentions to have their children subjected to such pain, etc. My children also are not toys, trophies etc. I am happy for my sacrifices and I have no regrets. Matter of fact I am in my mid 30's and I have a beautiful grandson. I am in glory to have a wonderful family.
If you don't want kids then that is great for you, our sacrifices is not your burden. You don't have to raise them, and you don't have to worry about the sacrifices we are making for them.
2006-12-08 07:19:00 · answer #6 · answered by Sassy Shut Your Mouth 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
we aren't all selfish, self-centered, spoiled brats.
gosh, that was easy to explain.
my son isn't a toy, he isn't a trophy and he doesn't satisfy any boredom. he is no burden and even though raising him isn't easy, doesn't mean it's hard.
i love waking up in the morning and going to his crib and seeing his smiling face and knowing that he is my baby. i grew him inside of me for 9 months and he is made up of my husband and me. i've never felt so much love and felt so needed before in my life. i just have to look at him, or think about him and i get this overwhelming feeling of love, joy, warmth, innocence, amazement.
he is the greastest thing i've ever done in my life. i don't mind that i have to get up 1/2 hour earlier to get ready for work. i don't mind that i can't go out with friends tonight. i want to stay home and cuddle him and play with him. i don't mind if he spits up on my new sweater. he's my son and nothing he does could change how much i love him.
having children isn't for everyone. i will say that. so, if you don't want kids, then don't have them. it's pretty simple.
take care.
2006-12-08 07:16:24 · answer #7 · answered by joey322 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are asking some fairly deep questions today BrainsToo.
I personally had kids because my body was telling me to. It is humans natural instinct to reproduce. Those who fight this urge are the selfish ones.
As corny as it sounds, there are moments with my children, albeit seldom, when I feel an overwhelming sense of peace and joy that nothing else in my life even compares to. I would sacrifice all I have, work my fingers to the bone, die a miserable painful death, for my kids.
These instincts are born from hundreds of thousands of years of living by our ancestors. It is senseless to fight them for a trip to Aruba or for a new BMW or a nice condo with a pool.
2006-12-08 07:14:07 · answer #8 · answered by barter256 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Kids!! Yea!! A baby goat....they are a burden...and take lots of personal sacrifice but children...They are the light of this world, the future...our future. They bring balance to a relationship and what you have after one half of a love is gone. They are , and they should be allowed to be children. I have four children and they are the best thing that has ever happened to me, they helped me to become the person whom I am today and they help guide me , help me to see, and to accept that I am good, bad, loving, angry and above all capable of loving others more than I love myself.
2006-12-08 07:53:48 · answer #9 · answered by FAND 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was pg, I SO hated kids, didn't want them, thought I would be a terrible parent. In my case, my daughter was a blessing and I would NEVER want to have changed that. Other times, people have them just because they need to feel "loved" then realize that a baby is just a screaming, needy, NOT cute and lovable bundle of joy. Not EVERYone out there is fit to have kids, and it's totally okay NOT to want them. It's a personal decision.
2006-12-08 07:19:38 · answer #10 · answered by blondieeeee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People have children because it's a part of life...and why not have children? It's ridiculous when there are those parents that are too young to know how to raise a child, and teen pregnancy is ridiculous, but when you have a child when you want to, and when you can give them your best, that's awesome. That is the only thing i think that will make anyone truly happy.
2006-12-08 07:08:09 · answer #11 · answered by ★Nat★ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋