Are Kids over rated? How are they a miracle when everyone has em?

Question

Do people have children for selfish reason, like trophies to their success?

What is the rational behind having kids?

Answer 1

Children are YOUR OWN little miracles. Something that, miraculously, grew inside of your body and stirred all kinds of emotions and feelings of pride that you didn't even know existed. They give you unconditional love, just because. They are your chance to raise decent human beings.

Answer 2

Not everyone can have children. Some women have very complicated pregnancies and deliveries when they do have them and each child is something special no matter how they came to be. Thats what i think when i hear people say that children are miracles.
I adopted my twin sons, who are now 2 1/2 years old from a family member after trying for a year to concieve on my own and having had one miscarriage. It was a miracle for me, at the time i thought i was unable to concieve again.
Now i am pregnant with my 3rd and will be last child. I was so shocked when i found out i was pregnant, almost didnt believe it. Each one of my children is a "miracle" to myself and my husband. It really is something you will see when you have your own children. Its a rewarding thing, but it takes a very selfless person to be a parent. Hope that helps answer your question!!

Answer 3

I had a child because I love children it wasn't about a trophie but he is the only person I truely love with my heart and each day he brings me joy and wonderment..

Everyone has a different reason .. I swore to my self if I hit 30 I wouldn't have kids.. I had my son at 27 I don't regret it at all .. I don't use him as a trophie I'm proud of his accomplishments that he has done on his own..

I can't have anymore kids and if I could I would but someday I will adopt but for right now I'm enjoying the only child I have and I love him for his smiles and his happiness he brings to the people around him .. He shows compasion and generosity at the ripe age of 5 I can't ask for a better child ... and then I wouldn't know what I was missing if I didn't have

Answer 4

Not looking at the evolutionary reasoning behind children-
Couples rarely rationalize while making them. – so, I suppose there is no rational to children.

There is the joy of the union with someone you love, and the creation of a child that comes from that union. There is wanting to share the wonder of life with them, and protect them from the sorrows you experienced as a child. – Wanting to let them see and experience the good in this world -- all the while protecting them from the bad.

However.. somewhere around age 11-13 that joy starts talking back to you and considers you an ignorant parental figure that is only worthy of their kindness if you put money out to buy them things. (lol)
They are (at least) an eighteen year obligation of love, money and devotion -- None of which is a guarantee you will get the love and devotion back.

They are a hideous financial investment (never to get a return).
But what is most important --- they are an amazing emotional, spiritual renewal of life. And as that, they are also a renewal of our hope for a better future.

And I chose not to have them.

Answer 5

I can' speak for all people about why they have kids, but i can say that they are definitely not overrated. Any one can experience love from their parents, a boyfriend, and in some cases when they have close friends, but absolutely nothing compares to the love that you have for YOUR child and the honest and pure love you get in return. With the world the way it is today, I don't think that i wanted to have any kids either, however i now have an 8 mth old daughter and she is the best thing that ever happened to me.

All in all if you have a kid, it will change your life for ever so be as ready as you can be.

Answer 6

People choose to have children for the sake of their family. Keeps the family growing and growing so the family tree doesnt die out. the "Miracle Babies" as I think you are refering to, means that there are so many people that struggle through some rough times in order to have children. They may have medical problems that make it complicated for them to bear children and once they do, they see it as a miracle. Also, miracle babies are mostly the ones that barely survived their birth. I consider my son to be a miracle baby because I was told that I may never be able to have children. I lost 3, almost died when I lost the 3rd. Was put on bedrest throughout my pregnancy so my son can have a life. Now, he can continue to carry on the family name by having a family on his own someday and making me a proud grandmother. I can only imagine how much I will get to spoil them! God bless you.

Answer 7

Too many women have children to give meaning to their life, they can't deal with being alone, or they want someone to make them feel loved because they cannot seek out love in a mature and appropriate way. I don't understand the "biological clock" rationale, and can't respect a woman that has children for this reason. You're not mature enough to separate your hormones from a rational thought process, you're not mature enough to have children.

If more women had children as a trophy to their success, then alot more children would be in alot better situations. This would mean that they were being born into families with enough money to take care of them, rather than drug addicted scumbags one or two paychecks away from homelessness.

Answer 8

Ohh your question is like sweet honey to my ears...well eyes! I ask myself the dame thing day after day. I don't understand the "need" to procreate with so much abandon. Don't you think we should take care of the people that are on the planet first before bringing any more into it. And it is by no means a "miracle" at all. Bill Hicks one said that it's "No more a miracle than eating food and having a turd come out your ***, it's a chemical reaction and nothing more".
Kids.....ohh they are annoying, smelly, childish...let's face it, they are, picky, boring, smelly....did I say smelly already, well they are and the worst part of it.....they talk over all the best bits in movie theaters! I beleive kids should be sent away to an island when they are 2 to learn how to socially interact and speak clearly then be allowed to return to society again when they are ohh say.....24

Answer 9

To have someone to pass all of your stuff too and take care of you when you are old. They are a miracle because they change your life in so many wonderful ways. I think that some people do have them for selfish reasons, but then they learn more about self sacrifice in the process of raising them.

Answer 10

I see some people in my hubby's work group that do that, I don't know why they've kids if they treat them like that. I really love being a parent and I'm pretty good at it. I look at myself as a parent and think my parents were horrible and I was right to think that as a child. I'm an adult and now I'm a good parent . I love having a family, something I really didn't have growing up and it's pretty normal too.

Answer 11

Having kids is a wonderful experience. It is something you have to experience for yourself, because it simply cannot be explained. I dont consider my kids to be "trophies" but I am indeed very proud of them. It is miraculous to watch them grow and learn. You feel a love for them that is just incredible. My teenage daughters are truly the best friends I could ever ask for.