I have twin 3 1/2 year old boys I am trying to get fully potty trained, but am having some difficulty.?

Question

They have become very good at going #1 on the potty, even in public places (which was a huge obstacle.) However no matter how I try, I cannot get them to even try to go #2. I have tried the reward system, putting up prize posters where they can put up stickers and the like to win a "prize," having nice conversations with them, and of course I have had moments in my frustration with it where I get angry and lecture them. They do not wear pull-ups during the day time, however they wear them at night. Generally they only go #2 once they are in their pull-ups at night. My fear is, if I get rid of the pull-ups at night, they will go #2 in their underwear and it will get inside their pajamas and you know what kind of mess we would be talking about then. I am open to suggestions. Help!!

Answer 1

Your best bet is to just accept the accidents
My 3 year old would use the potty at all, but his daycare suggested we send him in underwear instead of diapers.
There was one accident the first day, and maybe one the second, but he has been good ever since.
Just don't give them the opportunity any more to wait for a pull up.
have extra bed sheets and extra PJs available.
If you really want them to stop, you, as a parent, are going to have to accept the fact that there will be accidents. it'll happen at some point even after they are potty trained.

Answer 2

Take them somewhere fun. Make a hell of a deal out of it. Like the zoo. Do everything in your power to make this like the best day of their lives. While your there get some animal stickers. Go home and make two charts(one for each son) with 10-12 squares each. Every time they use the potty, they can put a sticker up. Tell them when both charts are filled they get to take another trip to the zoo. If one is done first, encourage him to help his brother so they can go back. Twins are naturally competitive so this should go quickly as they will both be trying extra hard to beat the other filling up his chart.

ps. Make half of the chart's for each boy, for #2 stickers only

Good luck

Answer 3

you could try a competition...for whoever does it first gets something neat...however you probably have tried that. I would try not puttin the pullups on...if they are holding it alllll day then that means they really don't wanna be having all over there clothes ....they may do it once in the pajamas..but i bet they wont wanna do it again...as horrible as that sounds...i think its the way to go..my daughter did it ONCE in her panties..and i had her help me wash 'em out..and that was the last of that..she was happy to use the potty after...i wasn't mean about it..just said..you did it...you know where the potty is...you chose not to use it...you help clean it...

Answer 4

I'm a psychology student, and this is allllo based on psychology. Maybe you could try a bigger reward, since you have tried that already. But maybe you should find why out they wont. Really try and get the reason out. Maybe some one told them something scary about it, or they have a silly fear. Sounds gross.. but maybe have them go in the bathroom while you or your husband go. They will see its not bad. Just a thought. Good luck!

Answer 5

My daughter was very similar to that-but she would ASK to have a diaper on when she new she needed to go #2. I let her do that because I didnt' want her to get constipated-I don't know if your boys would go in their PJ's or not but they may just hold it in and that could become a bigger problem. My daughter just eventually out grew it-give them time and see what happens-it's not the end of the world-at least they have mastered #1-that's a HUGE step already! I think some of it may be that they are "scared" to go #2 on the toilet (that was what we think our daughters prob was!)