Is my mother inlaw rude?

Question

My sis inlaw (both married into the family) were pregnant at the same time. My mother inlaw threw her a babyshower. We both had a shower already. Hers thrown by her family & I by my friends, I have no female family. I feel this is rude and I got my feelings hurt and MIL can't understand why. I did attend SILs second shower by the way. At my shower my MIL did not even talk to me other than a hello. Rude?

Answer 1

INCREDIBLY rude!! Yes there is definitely a problem there. I can understand you completely! My FIL treats me the same way. At my wedding to his son he made mention to my grandmother that he wish his son would've married a hispanic girl(b/c I am caucasian my husband is hispanic)...that is RUDE. I love his son very much and treat him like gold...I couldn't imagine any other woman of any other race treating and loving him the way that I do. We also already had a 1 year old little boy at the time. I know it hurts and I am not rude to him, I am always nice, and he still acts like I am just NOTHING. So I understand you...YOUR MIL IS a sick, rude person. Pay it NO mind! There is something about you that she is JEALOUS of and you BOTHER her...her loss!

Answer 2

Yes she is rude. What did your SIL say about this. If she continues to play favorites save yourself and your child the hurt of being snubbed and just stay away from her. If she says anything have your husband explain that she has hurt your feelings and you are very protective, and don't ever want you child to feel like they are second to your SIL's kids. If she chooses to be a part of your child's life fine, then forget the incident, and move forward.

Answer 3

It appears to be obvious that you mother in law doesn’t seem to have a bond with you. But that doesn’t mean you should be rude to her. You should try your best to be a nice person to her why don’t you try killing her with kindness. After all you are married to her son and unless you get a divorce she will always be a part of your life.

I do not feel that it was right of her to through your sister in law a baby shower and not you. She could have thrown a double baby shower or not have one at all. Maybe your husband should tell her something.

Answer 4

I agree, this is very rude. Since you are both in the family, she should have given both of you one at the same time or separate but not ignore you. That's tacky and I think your husband should say something to his Mother.

Answer 5

I guess. Ratting out your mother-in-law is a close second, though. Maybe you and hubby need to talk about building bridges. She is going to be Grandma soon, so try not to let this feeling steal your child's joy. Good luck.

Answer 6

Yes, this is not only rude but thoughtless. I also feel I should warn you, she will probably continue this behavior throughout your marriage.

Learn to overlook it, and don't let her hurt you. Good luck.

Answer 7

i see your point. But maybe she didn't know what to do? Are you 2 close. I would have a sit down talk with ur hubby and his mom, find out whats going on.

Answer 8

I go for the word b*tch myself. You are the mother of her soon to be grandchild and you sort of control where that grandchild goes. She might want to think about that. Congrats and good luck.

Answer 9

it is entirely possible that your mil is still getting to know you and does not quite how to approach you on a lot of things, please try warming up to her and possibly in the future you ma get all the attention you feel that you deserve

Answer 10

Yes, I agree, someone was rude.