No this isn't Cinderella.
My step sister whose 18 had a baby boy a year ago when she was 17. Before she had the kid she dropped out of school, and now she won't go back. She doesn't have a job either. But this isn't about those problems. She spends maybe 4 hours a day every other 3 days at home with her baby, and even then she only yells at him and tells her parents that they don't know how to raise him. The rest of the time she is out drinking and smoking with friends and her boyfriend. She sleeps at her boyfriend's house and basically lives there now. The only time she comes home is when she needs to do her laundry. My father and step mother have had to re-arrange their jobs and scheduals to take care of the baby since my step sister is hardly ever there. Is there something that can be done to teach her about raising the kid herself? Or should I just ignore the situation and let the boy grow up without knowing his mother?
2006-12-08 06:34:21 · 9 answers · asked by lavos1412 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
lol, By the way DrumrB0y, I'm damn near 23, just figured I'd correct you on that. Just visiting the folks while taking some time off from my long-haul-trucking job.
2006-12-08 07:10:10 · update #1
Unfortunately, most people as immature as your step sister grow up way too late to be a good role model for a child that she had at such a young age. While some people who have children at a young age do accept responsibility for his/her actions and turn out to be very good parents, it seems your step sister isn't even trying since your parents are mainly caring for the child. If she doesn't have a job, and isn't in school getting an education; how is she going to support herself much less her child? My advice to you would be to help your parents any way you can, and try to keep the peace when your step sister is around. She is the one missing out on the most precious moments of her child's life. One day she will grow up and realize the mistakes she has made. If your nephew is being well taken care of by your parents, that is much better than him being with your step sister and her boyfriend. Hopefully, with your help & the guidance of your parents, her child will not grow up without knowing his mother, but grow up knowing how not to live. They obviously did a fine job on you. God Bless.
2006-12-08 06:52:09 · answer #1 · answered by tiny_tim 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What your parents need to do is make her take care of her own son instead of spoiling her. If they really wanted to make her listen I would go over whover house she's over and hand her the baby. Also if she doesn't want the baby she need to consider letting your mom and dad adopt him and if they do I would treat him like that's my child and let her know its not her's anymore cause she couldn't accept responsibility. If that don't wake her up then she is a poor excuse for a mother.
2006-12-08 06:42:44 · answer #2 · answered by Redbone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When that happened to my husband and I..........we took the baby and adopted her. My stepdaughter wasn't ready to be a mother and she proved that within the first 3 months. Have your parents thought of adopting the baby? You can call in child services...but once they are in your lives, it's hard to get them out. You can't prevent your step sister from doing what she is doing. Concentrate on giving the baby that best life that you all can.
2006-12-08 06:42:25 · answer #3 · answered by Lori 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i know someone like that. well if she is drinking and smoking and always yelling at the baby than it would be better if they lived with there grandparents. because she could like come home drunk and pass out and something can happen to the baby so I would just leave things the way they are.
2006-12-08 06:46:18 · answer #4 · answered by sparks nevada wild child 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her to take photos of you as you experience, yet do no longer push her in any respect, no longer even the slightest bit, into doing something extra effective than shooting. If she would be waiting to no longer even try this, then in basic terms do no longer touch it. She has an somewhat deep worry of being injured back, and that's no longer something genuinely open to reason or persuasion.
2016-10-14 07:00:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is an inocent little baby, what he wants is love. Try talking to your parents about adopting the baby. Or you could talk to social workers and the state. Please try to help out that wonderful baby. He needs somebody to love him not yell at him. Babies are wonderful. You could call the police station and ask them what steps you need to take, they will help. Or even call a dr office and ask them who you need to call. Everyone should be able to help you out.
2006-12-08 06:58:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consult with your parents about reporting her to your Social Services agency if she's not willing to be a mother to her child; if she's living such a waste of a life, I squarely blame the parents for being negligent in their duties to raise her any better than that.
I don't expect them to take well to you wanting to report family, but I commend you for even knowing that they're slackers and for caring about your half-sibling, who is the helpless victim here.
I advise that as soon as you turn 18, you leave these losers in your past and move on to a better life.
2006-12-08 06:40:26 · answer #7 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
tell you r parents to kick her out, is she is able to make children's she will be able to take care of then too...
2006-12-08 07:05:15 · answer #8 · answered by ~Vale~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you pitch in and help out with the kid. he is your nephew you know
2006-12-08 06:37:10 · answer #9 · answered by i totally agree with you!! not 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋