OK, I’m 15 years old and when I grow up I want to be a stay at home mom with a large family. I want to have 5-8 kids and also adopt 5-8 kids, so yeah, we’re talking a really large family. I want to live out in the country somewhere not the city, preferably Tennessee. This is what I’ve wanted to do since I was really little. I have no other career choice in mind, nothing appeals to me. All of my friends want mini coopers, I want a mini van. I love to do chores and clean the house, and also love babysitting for other people. Also, I like putting together baby names and have all my future kids names picked out. Is this normal? It’s not like I’m 20 or anything, only 15. and is there really a guy out there who would want to have as many kids as i do? Please offer any advice that you can. And please no stupid remarks. Thanks!!!
2006-12-08 06:31:27 · 5 answers · asked by i totally agree with you!! not 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think that it is great that you are looking forward to having a family, and I'm sure some of that may come from the family your grew up with. Yes, I do think that there is a man out there that could share your passion for family.
At the same time, realize that as you grow older, your dreams and expectations for your life may change. You may want to have a job of some sort and balance a smaller family. That's perfectly ok for your life to move down a different route, but don't let the fact that your life may turn out a little differently get you down.
You are obviously a very caring and loving person and can't wait to share that with someone (especially children who need that). There are so many people who don't seem to share your feelings, so it's good to know you're out there.
2006-12-08 06:42:52 · answer #1 · answered by teel2624 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is completely normal. Everyone in life have different priorites and goals at certain points in their lives. You seem to have a care taker mentality that most people don't have until they're put in a situation where they grow into it. Keep in mind that if you want to support your family's needs, you are going to have to think about how your going to support them financially. And your probably thinking, well my husband will do that part, but you also have to think about college.
You are young and at this point it's a good idea to save about $2000, put it in a Roth Ira (research on this) and by the age of 30 you should have at least $500,000, which will extremely help in the financial area. If your up to this, find a job (when you turn 16; if you can get one now, go ahead), work about 15 hrs per week and in about 6-7 months you should have the amount you need. Do research on that and set your own limits. Remember, when you have chosen the path you want to go in, you should do as much research and planning as much as possible.
YES!! They're guys out there that like the idea of having that many kids but you usually don't dont find them until you hit the mid twenties. I'm 21 now, and I've observed that men start to want to really want kids when they're around 23-28. However, that always depends on the guy and where they're coming from.
Well, I hope that helped.
2006-12-08 07:09:37 · answer #2 · answered by Alana ♥PeAcE♥ 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There may be a man who wants to have that many kids, but he is going to have to make a lot of money to pay for all those kids. I'm glad that you want to be a stay at home mom with so many kids. Perhaps you should consider starting with a smaller family and running a family day care. Or you could have 5 or 6 kids of your own and provide foster care for other children. Then you could have a house full of kids and get some extra money for the foster kids. In a way, you could be paid to be a stay at home mom.
The world needs more people like you who recognize the value of raising children. Most people ship thier children off to day care to be raised by teachers.
2006-12-08 06:40:29 · answer #3 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that is beautiful and i hope u can find a man like that but it may be difficult.Hang around and help out at places where children get looked after like orphanages better chance of finding someone there. Dont be in a hurry and dont go looking just be there to help. U r still too young.
2006-12-08 10:35:42 · answer #4 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I should put this on hold for the time being, I wanted 6 kids when i was your age, I`m now nearly 52, I don`t have any children (through choice) I don`t miss having any children, I do have some grown up step-children whom i get on with really great.
Please try not to grow up too soon love.
2006-12-08 06:59:07 · answer #5 · answered by Tatty 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋