For the past year and a half, I have been working closely with someone out of her house. Since July, my feelings for her have grown very strong. I think about her all the time and know that we would make a perfect match. The problem is, I have been getting mixed signals from her so I don't know how she feels. I don't want to come right out and say anything because that may scare her off and if the feelings are not mutual then it would make things very awkward between us.
Even though I work out of her house and we get along great, we have never had a social meeting. A couple of times I asked her to do things outside of the office but she was not available (or perhaps not willing?).
Please don't tell me not to date a co-worker because if I had to choose between my job and her then it would be a no-brainer.
To add to this mess, another woman has expressed interest in me but I don't want to lead her on when my heart is somewhere else.
Does anyone have any suggestions?
2006-12-08 06:21:22 · 6 answers · asked by spinner2722 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Date both casually at first and see where they both go. If one goes well, go exclusive with her.
2006-12-08 06:24:20 · answer #1 · answered by tree daddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing always is to be open about your feelings yet maintain your focus on her feelings.You need to know how she feels and if you dont know your not doin your job.Thats a big part of a relationship is your ability to communicate and as men we need to know the hidden language of what women say and what they really mean.part of the courtship is a test on how much attention to detail you have paid.the more you listened and the details you picked up from conversation.The trick is listen always.Also never let them know you adore them completely cuz they like a challenge.always making her smile and laugh is a sure fire way to her heart.They like that better than looks.The other girl who has expressed interest in you just gotta do the same thing.pay attention to the details and express yourself truthfully.women really like it when a man can evaluate them well.Your dealing with a very complicated creature.people die good luck
2006-12-08 14:52:18 · answer #2 · answered by savage_14u2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what I would say to her. I would say "What would you say if I told you that I would like to take you out on a date?" That way it keeps it hypothetical and if she says no then things won't be that awkward. If you don't go straight to the point then you will never know what she would say. Do this first and if she isn't interested then you can go out with the other lady.
2006-12-08 14:25:34 · answer #3 · answered by Serinity4u2find 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you would like to know then you don't actually have to flat out ask her just kind of bring it up as a subject you know and then go from there. But sometimes you have to take risks and you never know she might be waiting for you to ask her.
2006-12-08 14:26:50 · answer #4 · answered by Jessie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite her to lunch or dinner and have conversation on the subject. Also let it be known that it wouldn't change things at work (because it shouldn't). If you don't know, ask. Understand her if she doesn't feel the way you do.
2006-12-08 14:26:39 · answer #5 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
like they say things happen for a reason
if you have talked to her or asked about her feelings
and if she feels the same then go on with what you have
if not then move on
follow your heart
2006-12-08 14:28:48 · answer #6 · answered by rosepoet4567 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋