We have been dating for 2 years and live together. They have a son together, but there relationship goes Way Beyond the realm of parenting. They talk to eachother at least twice daily, email constantly. She is remarried, but according to him, her relationship to her new husband is rocky. My bf has never introduced us in the 2 years we've been together, she avoids all contact with me whenever we come in close proximity. I came home recently and discovered that his ex-step daughter has been getting off the bus at our house for over a month, and he never mentioned it to me. Which means taht the ex is coming over everyday as well, when I'm not there. Also, the girl spent all weekend with us, and I was never consulted. I had to hear her (13 yrs old), talk about how much she missed being a family with him, and that she wishes they could get back together (ex and my BF). I feel they have an innapropriate emotional relationship when they are both supposed to be in committde relationships.HELP
2006-12-08 06:02:06 · 18 answers · asked by gretyl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's so sweet. It sounds like he still loves the mother of his kids, and is keeping in touch in order to make sure his kids and wife are ok. I hope they get back together and be a family again so the kids can stop visiting their dad, and stop being exposed to people shacking up, failing remarriages and all that.
2006-12-08 06:10:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely somethings going on. If they had nothing to hide, he would have already introduced you to her. And why didn't he tell you about the step-daughter. obviously the ex is trying any excuse just to be able to be with him. It's okay for him to see her when he picks up his kid but not just to go see how she's been. If they talk that much , it must be because they still miss each other. Only you know what you want to do, but you need to open your eyes and not let him get away with all that. Good luck.
2006-12-08 06:13:37 · answer #2 · answered by *LUCYLOU* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't like it either kiddo. It sounds like something is going on doesn't it. The kids coming over for a visit is OK but you should be consulted. Your bf shouldn't be so involved with his ex. Does her husband know about all this stuff? If not maybe he needs to know. Sounds like theres some sneaking around going on. I'd tell your bf to show you some respect. Your not a door mat. If he doesn't nip it in the bud, then I'd ask the exes husband to.
2006-12-08 06:20:36 · answer #3 · answered by autumn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really cant say that I understand the situation, me I would be really pissed because I would only think the worst. But they have kids togther so I would hope that they stay in touch. Try talking to him and letting him know that you should be informed when things like this is going on behind you back, let him know that you are concerned.
Now the ex I dont really know she might do be having some set backs she might would want them to get back together. But lets not jump to conclusions. Like I said just try and talk to him. If all else fails let him go.
2006-12-08 06:08:27 · answer #4 · answered by Brea Mac 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down and read his ***, girl!!! I had the same situation with a bf. You need to put your foot down NOW! Tell him how it makes you feel and ask him how he would react if the shoe was on the other foot?! And why is he not telling you these things about the step daugther coming over, etc? I would definitely ask him about that also. And why do they have to talk everyday, how old is the child? And if the child is old enough to dial the phone themselves, why are they still talking anyways......think about it!
2006-12-08 06:08:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if your relationship with your boyfriend is NOT based on truth and honesty. Perhaps you might want to rethink why you are together. Lies and deception are not exactly a good basis for a long term relationship. If he is unthruthful about his realtionship with his ex - what else is he being untruthful about?
2006-12-08 06:09:02 · answer #6 · answered by Catharine B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're right. They do have an emotional relationship that you need to be concerned about. Have you spoken with him about this. I think that's what needs to happen here. You both need to sit down and talk this one over.
If his daughter is coming over your house, you have a right to know about it.
Communication is what you need to have start before it's too late.
2006-12-08 06:06:18 · answer #7 · answered by Lancer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had better make a stand now. Seems they are sneaking around - not a god sign. You better start getting your things in order to kick him out because if he is in that tight with her (kids included), then you don't have much to stand on against that. Sorry but it seems this has been going on for quite some time now.
2006-12-08 06:07:16 · answer #8 · answered by danceteacher 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to him about the way you feel? He needs to know that your not happy with the situation and that you'd like to discusse when/how long someone stays at the house since it not just his and not just your house, its the both of yours house.
2006-12-08 06:06:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he should ask about the kids coming over.... there may be nothing there but friendship i would speak with him an voice my concerns about what is happening...and i would also make arraingment to b home early on a day you know the daughter will be there and see what is going on......
2006-12-08 06:08:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋