My homeboy named ERIK and i like him and I don't want to ruin our friendship that we have between us, but he always flirts with me and as the days got older it made me got closer to him now I don't know what to do
2006-12-08 06:01:56 · 9 answers · asked by julia z 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dating a friend is a tricky thing to get involved with. When you are friends first you have to make a decision on what is important to you. Your boyfriend should be someone that is your bestfriend. You want to think about if the boyfriend does not work out then what will be left for friends... Most of the time it is real hard to stay friends once the relationship goes bad. Then again you may choose to be his girlfriend and end up being with your soul mate. Being friends first always makes a closer relationship. You just have to think about what happens next if it does not work out. I have been there. My best friend was a great guy. We were bestfriends for years. We desided to get together as boyfriend and girlfriend. We dated for a few years. Then we broke up. What happended is that I lost my best friend for ever. Life does go on. This was many year ago. The silly thing is I still miss him. I am know married and very happy with my husband. Just still miss my best friend. Think long and hard on your options and make sure you make the best choice for yourself. Good Luck!!!
2006-12-08 06:09:04 · answer #1 · answered by Wilma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to try it out or not??? If so then lay down some ground rules first:
1. Let's go slow (just because we were friends first doesn't mean we will jump into a serious relationship.
2. If for some unforeseen reason this doesn't work out let's make a pack to still remain friends. (it will be a little weird at first but as long as the breakup wasn't because of someone getting their heart broke everything should be fine).
If you don't want to try it out let him know. If you don't want to hurt his feelings then say it in a way were you are hinting to the fact. Example: "Man so and so were friends before they dated and that didn't turn out good at all, I would never make that mistake...friendship is too important!! HINT HINT!! Good luck!
2006-12-08 06:12:10 · answer #2 · answered by cutie44 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the one thing I have found to be true is once you go past just friends, you can never just be friends again. If you really want something more and you think risking your friendship is worth it then go for it. The only draw back is if you go for something more, then when it ends one side is usually still wanting the something more and the other is just trying to go back to the way things were before or just trying to escape the entire situation. In my honest opinion, yall clearly get along well since yall are friends and if he meets what your looking for in a BF then go for it.
2006-12-08 06:09:07 · answer #3 · answered by Merk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will effect your friendship, maybe good maybe bad. Sometimes it is worth the risk but just know that things will never be the same again.
2006-12-08 06:18:42 · answer #4 · answered by Sunshine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let nature takes it's course. The feelings are there and they're mutual. Keep breathing and don't have any expectations. Take love one kiss at a time and enjoy the moment for what it is.
2006-12-08 06:04:59 · answer #5 · answered by vince 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to ruin the friendship then let it be just a friendship!
2006-12-08 06:04:19 · answer #6 · answered by marisanj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, do you like him? Would you see yourself with him (as bf and gf)?
If you like him and you would see yourself as his gf, then go for it...
If not then tell him you are not interested in going to the next level...
If he is a true friend, you will never lose his friendship...
Good luck!!!
2006-12-08 06:06:35 · answer #7 · answered by Milkywayman22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him and flirt back
2006-12-08 06:04:27 · answer #8 · answered by Jessica H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
iof he is a home boy haha ,, all he want is sex , open you eyes
2006-12-08 06:03:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋