If the girl (fiancee) doesnt have enough money to do.. but her boyfriend has....
2006-12-08 06:01:51 · 32 answers · asked by *live,laugh,love* 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
then her boyfriend should pay for it. Come on common sence it is your wedding you pay for it unless someone offers
2006-12-08 09:55:23 · answer #1 · answered by BabyDolll128 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Traditionally, weddings in America are paid for by the bride's family if it is a first wedding and the bride and groom are relatively young.
The bride's family pays for the wedding as they are now "giving her away" and she will be the responsibility of her husband financially after the wedding. This would assume that the husband is buying their new home and providing all their means to live. This view, of course, is somewhat antiquated in this day of two income households.
A ladies family would not pay for a second wedding, as she is now an adult on her own, and not under their household.
An older bride who was been working on her own for some time should also consider whether she or her older parents are better able to give the wedding. A younger bride must have help as she is often recently done with her education.
In the tradition of the bride's parents paying for the wedding, it is also assumed that the bride and groom will have to be satisfied with the arrangements that the bride's family can afford. It is never correct to have a wedding that is completely out of accord with ones financial means. If one does this it always appears that a "show" is being put on.
More recently we have seen both sets of parents helping the couple with money towards the wedding, or the couple paying for it somewhat or totally by themselves. Many different arrangements are now considered correct as to who will pay for the wedding, as long as all are in agreement. You are correct in that this can vary be ethnic group also.
Mrs. Steven Crawford
2006-12-08 07:09:27 · answer #2 · answered by drhscooby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is something that you need to talk over. It sounds to me as if the girl has a champagne taste and a beer budget, so to speak. Maybe she needs to become realistic about her wedding and accept that not everyone wants to blow a five-figure budget on a one-day fairy-tale gala. And that maybe her boyfriend doesn't see the need to pay for some of the frills and fantasies that his bride-to-be dreams about. And that's a very legitimate point-of-view.
If the bride-to-be is dead set on having an expensive extravaganza but she doesn't have the money to pay for it, then maybe she needs to postpone her wedding until she saves enough money to buy the wedding of her dreams. Maybe she and hubbykins-to-be need to sit down and have a heart-to-heart about monetary issues, because differences in attitude about saving, spending and money in general break up more marriages than problems with sex or in-laws do.
If the bride-to-be is dead set on having her fantasy wedding, maybe she needs to sit down and think about why each thing she wants that costs money is so important to her. It's a sign of maturity to be able to face each other and talk objectively and without getting emotional about things like this.
2006-12-08 06:14:24 · answer #3 · answered by Karin C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Etiquette dictates that the brides father pay for the wedding, but given modern society, I believe it proper for the bill to either be split or paid for by whichever party has the means to do so.
My son married 6 months ago and we paid completely for the ceremony that HE wanted because the bride's parents couldn't afford to do so. It was one of the best experiences of my life.
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2006-12-08 06:13:37 · answer #4 · answered by all_classy_bitof_sassy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally it is the bride's parents that pay for the wedding.
In my case, we are working to pay for the wedding ourselves, together. We are having donations from my (the bride) parents (they aren't rich) and possibly the groom's parents.
I agree with some of the above, you should not expect others to pay for your wedding. Pay for the wedding and other items, and if someone gives you money towards the ceremony/reception/dresses/etc, then what a suprise!
2006-12-08 13:07:55 · answer #5 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's usually the bride's family that pays for the wedding, except for the minister and that's the groom's responsibility, as if purchasing the bride's bouquet. The groom's family usually hosts the rehearsal dinner if there is one. Now days, really anything goes! Lots of couples share the cost.
2006-12-08 06:09:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, when I got married I was not on speaking terms with my dad so he didn't help out and my mom didn't have any money. My hubby's parents are loaded but since I wouldn't do things her way we ended up getting married at the courthouse. We payed for everything except for a small reception that his mom had for us at her house a few months after we got married. I think that nowadays with most families not being close and not working together that more and more couples are doing it on their own. Good luck!
2006-12-09 04:23:08 · answer #7 · answered by Dawn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The brides family usually pays for the wedding and the grooms family pays for the reception and rehersal dinner.
2006-12-08 06:10:39 · answer #8 · answered by Christy K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Brides family picks up the tab for the wedding. Grooms family does the rehersal dinner and the honeymoon. But depending on how old you are - truthfully - you shouldn't expect ANYONE to pick up the tab for your wedding - except you and your fiance.
2006-12-08 06:24:31 · answer #9 · answered by Kari 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally, the bride's parents pay. However, this is the 21st century and women aren't owned by their families or husbands anymore. It is now paid for by the couple with help from their parents. All "payment participants" contribute however much they can afford to contribute. He should pay what he can, as should she.
(Example: My fiance and I are both putting 10% of each paycheck in our wedding fund. 10% for him is usually around $70. 10% for me is around $10. You do what you can.)
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2006-12-08 06:05:08 · answer #10 · answered by Esma 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Its become so common that both parents and the bride and groom to be all pay for the wedding.
2006-12-08 06:20:19 · answer #11 · answered by Tabitha 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋