I've been dating this guy off/on everysince I was 14. Now I'm 17 and we're still having problems! I just don't understand him sometimes. One minute he's telling me that he loves me, and then the next minute he's cheating on me or he's mad at me for something. I love him so much and we've been through so much. I've had a miscarriage this past January and I've been going through alot. And he called me this morning and asked could he come over. I know that all he wants to do is have sex, but I love him. What in the hell should I do? I feel like we will always be with each other. He's not going anywhere and neither am I. I'm just confussed on how to react or talk to him. And mind U, I haven't seen him in 3 months. (we just got back together)
2006-12-08 05:51:20 · 17 answers · asked by redbone 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So, why do yo let him manipulate you so much? Seriously, you let him walk all over you.
You may be confusing comfort with love. You may be comfortable with the fact that you know what to expect and get from this guy.
It's probably time to leave your comfort zone and be on your own for a while. Someone suggested that you tell him how he makes you feel.....if he doesn't know after this length of time then something is very, very wrong.
Take the time to establish your own identity and life. When you're comfortable being by yourself, and relying on yourself, you may find a lot better world, and many better people to share it with.
On the other hand, if you want to just be a booty call.......
Good luck.
2006-12-08 06:01:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't u think you should be treated better than that? You must don't know your worth. Don't have sex with him just to keep him...actually don't have sex with him at all or anyone. Wait until you get married, it will save you a lot of hurt and pain in the long run. Once you stop giving up your goodies to him you will find out if he really loves you or not. Remember this..true love that will never fail will not ask you to do anything that's ungodly. Tell him no and don't let him come over so you won't get yourself in a situation.
2006-12-08 13:55:36 · answer #2 · answered by unknown 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's sooo much wrong with what you've said.
Where to begin?
You're 17? I don't know how old HE is, but rest assured that a man will say anything to get between your legs, Including saying I love you -- even though I assure you he hasn't a clue what that means.
As for you -- whether you love him or not, you're kidding yourself if you think you "just got back together," considering that you haven't seen him for 3 months.
Move on. finish school, build your life, or whatever. Just don't waste your potential by getting pregnant again before you're even 18.
2006-12-08 14:00:00 · answer #3 · answered by bearcruiser1 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First I would ask yourself what are YOU benefiting from this relationship. And is this someone who has made you happy and you think will make you happy if you two were to get married etc. Sometimes we fall in love with people who are wrong for us and then we get comfortable, scared and think we're never going to find someone else so why change. Just remember making sure you are happy should be the most important thing! Good Luck! Hope this made sense.
2006-12-08 13:58:43 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa Marie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Re-read your post and ask yourself what you would say to someone else if they asked this question. The guy uses you for sex, cheats on you, or is constantly mad at you. This guy is a 'real' prize. Stop sleeping with him and tell him to get lost. You can do a lot better than this loser.
2006-12-08 13:54:42 · answer #5 · answered by tipper 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"I know that all he wants to do is have sex, " theres your answer, the both of you are way to young, im 20 and looking back at relationships, its funny to me now, its note real love, its more lust than love, the both of you crave the attention not the genuine love, so leave him and focus on your school and find a real bf once you get into college
2006-12-08 13:55:38 · answer #6 · answered by daniel t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well let me tell you. you are 17 there is no need for to be bother with relationship problems right now have fun and enjoy your youth because in the end you would regret ever wasting your time plus years on someone who is not for you
2006-12-08 13:57:56 · answer #7 · answered by rach 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart you and he are babies. I mean young...your lives haven't started yet. Don't make the mistake of staying with your high school fling for your whole life...that is a sign of weakness, not love. It indicates that the two of you are afraid of life. So buy some CONDOMS and go begin the rest of your life.
2006-12-08 13:56:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dump him.
Dump him.
Dump him.
Dump him.
Dump him.
Dump him.
I don't really think this needs to be explained. If you end up with this guy permanently, prepare for a life full of chaos, misery, lies, cheating, fighting and maybe even abuse. Stay away.
2006-12-08 13:56:51 · answer #9 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. You are too young for a serious relationship plus the fact that he has cheated on you. Cut your losses.
2006-12-08 13:54:10 · answer #10 · answered by boredperv 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋