i guess i was gang raped?

Question

i was talking to this one boy, and one day i ended up going to his cousins house during school to go chill with him.. and whike i was there.. things advanced to sex, and i agreed to do it with him. well when we finished our... "thing", 3 of his friends walked in the room ready to hit me too.. but i said no. well.. ones of the boys mom worked with my mom and my mom is not aware of me having sexual relations. well, the one boy threatened to tell my mother if i did not perform sexual acts on aLL of them and i said no. i ended up saying no 3 times but i finally gave in because it was just so much bull**** at one point in time and i didnt know what to do, and ended up doing all of them. a resourse that i have talked to about everything said i wasnt gang raped because i ended up saying yes.. but i know that it really was.i did say no, and i didnt ask for things to happen. i dont know what to think or do, and i just need some comforting advice.

Answer 1

~You "gave in" but could have been pressured or scared that they would hurt you if you didn't.
Definitely tell your mom what happened! She'll be more concerned about what happened to you than you being sexually active, I would think. From there, you and your mom can figure out what to do from there.
The sooner you do this, the better. DO get counseling for this.~

Answer 2

I believe that you were indeed raped because even though you ended up giving in, you were threatened into it. From what you've said about these boys' actions, I think that they would have done that to you whether you said yes or not. That's why all three came in instead of just one at a time; they wanted to intimidate you. You should definitely talk to a counselor about this, and if you can gather up the courage, your mom. If she knows the mom of one of the guys then maybe something can be done so that this doesn't happen to another woman. I don't know what your family situation is like, but if your mom truly loves you, she will be more concerned with the fact that you were violated than the fact that you are sexually active.

In the future, whenever you go to someone's house, make sure you bring a friend in case something happens. If you can, carry a cell phone so that you can call for help if you're in danger.

Whatever you do, remember that you are not alone. Society has a way of blaming the victim in situations like this, and that's why not many people come forward. Just stay strong and keep on living your life the best that you can. Good luck, and I hope that you find peace in whatever you do.

Answer 3

You didn't do the act willingly however you look at it! You were pressured to do what you did. Just keep safe. Try and prevent getting into situations like that again. Unfortunately it has happened now. And you can't turn bk the clock. But you can change the way you live the rest of your life. Is there someone you can talk to?

As for any of the people saying that you were raped, honestly have they never been in a situation where you are afraid or being threatened! It's not a clean cut with a rape case. If you had a knife at your throat, imagine you are a parent, would you be killed or be raped?? Ask yourself..... Would you not agree and say anything to stay alive. This girl is obviously young and afraid.

Answer 4

To start, let me say I'm sorry to hear that. Second, you might want to seek professional help because this is a pretty serious matter.

Being raped is when you say no and the person does the actions afterwards but if you said yes to these boys, "technicly" it wasn't rape but if you didn't want to, you should of stuck to your guns and said no.

I know the boy might have told your mother about it but the way I look at it, what would of been better. Your mom knowing and being ok with it or now having this feeling of guilt because of the things the boys have done to you.

I'm not saying this is your fault, because it is not. But if you are ever in the situation again because these boys might try again, say no and stick to your guns.

I hope everything works out for you.

Answer 5

If there is a sexual assault clinic in your area you would be wise to go there and discuss this situation with a counselor there. They will probably advice that you contact the police and have these individuals charged with sexual assault or sexual interference. I realize that you are probably afraid of your mother's reaction but rest assured that she will most like be very supportive of you and tell you to stand up for what is right and have them charged. It is not going to be pretty if you have to go to court but it is a necessary evil as you may be sparing another victim from this same fate. Saying NO means just that and you were forced into this act by these males and as such were indeed gang raped. Best of luck to you and I do hope that you are able to do the right thing by laying charges and find some form of closure on this terrible event.

Answer 6

You were definitely raped, even though you said yes in the end. Rape is not a sexual act, it is a form of aggression. By threatening you, by cornering you, by ganging up on you and intimidating you with their physical presence, these boys bullied you into performing sexual acts on them. That's rape. Also, if you feel as if you were raped, then you were. Your mind will always try to come up with stuff to explain or justify things, but your body is so fine-tuned, it knows when it was violated. I can't tell you what to do, because I don't know in what country you live and how your legal system works. But, please, do take care of yourself. Watch out with whom you have sex. Be very careful out there.

Answer 7

If you said yes in the end then physically you weren't raped, but I'm mentally you feel like you were. Make sure you go to a doctor to get checked out and don't ever hang out with any of those people again.

You should have left the minute it started getting bad. It would have been better to have your mom know you had sex than to have to do what you did.

Answer 8

OMG!! This is such a terrible thing to happen to anyone. I am so sorry that you had to go through that. I do consider it a gang rape. They pressured you, bribed you and wore you down until you eventually gave in. That is not consensual sex. My advise to you is to trust that your mom would have preferred to know you were sexually active rather than you get ganged raped. He could still tell and they would have raped you anyway. Please be careful. There are so many diseases out there, some incurable. You would not want to contract something, that would break your mom's heart more than being honest with her and being safe. Did they use condoms? Please take a pregnancy test, a HIV test and get a pap smear. You have to love yourself and take care of your body.

God Bless You sweetie

Answer 9

You might of said no but at the end you said okay no is no all the way you didnt say no all the way no you werent rape. You dont give in to something like that if you said no while they were doing it then yes it was a rape but you said okay lets get it over with cause you didnt want your mom to find out that was stupid I wather have my mom find out then just give up and say okay to those guys now u are consider a hoe to all them even the guy that u like you know they are going to go to school and tell ever one you let them do a train on u and that u will let them.Now every mutherfucker in that school well try to holla dont go with enybody at that school girl if u do you are proven that those guys are right about u.

Answer 10

Baby you were rape, sorry to hear that but never go to a man home on your own. that why most mother say wait your time, when you don't, a number of things can go wrong. i would tell my mother no matter what, what if you got pregnant for one of them or something worse like std'splease find a way to tell your mom. start by telling if you can tell her everything even the bad things and promise not to be mad because she is all you have.