2006-12-08 05:19:07 · 28 answers · asked by baby jay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If a man beat you would you go back when he said I am sorry?
Cheating is a type of abuse. It takes too long to rebuild the trust and you could have spent that wasted time building a stronger relationship with someone who did not cheat.
Every time I ever went back they did it again. Even a year later.
Ans: NO!
2006-12-08 05:25:12 · answer #1 · answered by Hi'Lo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's obvious you have some thought of possibly staying with him. You also have to give him a little credit that he told you even though that doesn't change or make it better that he did cheat. I think you need to weigh your options and feelings. Do you love him enough to stay and try to move beyond what he did? At some point in time can you honestly forgive him, not saying forget but just forgive? You can't tell him that you forgive him and you want to work on your relationship but come the first fight you throw in his face what he did. If he breaks a date with you and give you a stupid excuse for not showing up what will be the first thing that enters your mind. If you call him and he doesn't answer his phone are you going to start accusing him? If you want to stay then it will take both of your working at getting beyond this point and disappointment. You should however let him know how you feel about what he did and if you stay let him know why you're staying. However let him know that it's not going to be easy right now, he has to regain your trust at this point.
2006-12-08 13:32:24 · answer #2 · answered by Pisces Princess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the level of the relationship, not who long you've been together. If you can forgive him, stay with him. But he has to also stay faithful and not do it again. We are all human and YES it hurts like HELL when someone cheats on you BUT if he deserves a second chance then stay. If you do take him back, be sure NOT to over analyze things if he isn't cheating anymore because you will drive him away. Don't be blind but don't be paranoid. *Good Luck* :)
2006-12-08 13:23:58 · answer #3 · answered by A. Tarayana 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Say to yourself this - why did he cheat? Because if he wasn't shagging you he was sure as hell not missing you when he was with someone else. Do you really think you can be with him and never question were they better? did she have a better bum than me? did it feel different? better? DO NOT DO IT TO YOURSELF. I know it is easy for strangers to say walk away, but honestly, take a good look at life, you are in charge of the way your life maps out. I have been a sap.... not for me, spend days feeling paranoid, looking over my shoulder. Take control of your life, if he wants you back, take the one thing he wants away and enjoy his pain. He caused you heartache. Is it worth a broken heart and a life of uncertainties.
2006-12-08 13:26:46 · answer #4 · answered by Girl of Spirit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently his mind wasn't on you when he cheated. In most cases it may or may not happen again. If you are married and have children go see a counsler and work things out. If you're not married then get out.. There are plenty of fish in the sea and that one is not for you.
2006-12-08 13:24:37 · answer #5 · answered by codiesmama5 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he was thinking about his feelings for you when he cheated on you right? No he wasn't . He just doesn't want to get dumped. I would kick that boy to the curb, once a cheater always a cheater
2006-12-08 13:26:42 · answer #6 · answered by joker:P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a guy, but answering the question in principle...No, I would not stay with him. It's very highly likely that, at the best, he has issues about commitment and working in a relationship that will make you quite unhappy in your life, and, at the worst, that he will do it again. And again.
Best to cut your losses and run now.
2006-12-08 13:22:43 · answer #7 · answered by CP_Researcher 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would all depend if he was sorry he went to the race track, so to speak, or sorry that he lost his money (or got caught). Most often, it's the latter, and what sort of a relationship was it where it was considered "cheating"?
Also, don't forget the old saying, "fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me."
2006-12-08 13:21:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That depends how much you love him..yes once a cheater always a cheater..but we have to believe that people are better than that. ..Forgive but dont forget. Also depends how he cheated on you.
on the plus he told you, you didnt have to find out
2006-12-08 13:23:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my girlfriend told me that she cheated on me I would say bye bye sweaty. And move to a more loyal subject. In your case I would do the same thing. Male female the rules are the same in my book.
2006-12-08 13:23:09 · answer #10 · answered by george 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋