I was raped by a man I was becoming friends with, it was a very violent rape. I did not report it, I was young and scared and wanted it to all go away. Then I found I was pregnant, and wanted to keep the baby. He is now 6, and the father is harassing me, my family and my friends, wanting to be a part of my son's life. It is too late to file the rape report. He makes me sick, but some people say he should meet him, he is his father. Every tiny bit of my motherly instincts want to protect my son from that monster. What is your view?
2006-12-08 05:11:08 · 50 answers · asked by rapunzeltd 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
No it is not too late to file a rape report. Your son is the evidence of that. People have filed abuse cases 20 years after the fact and won their case. Do it so you can get the idiot out of your life. AND NO he has no right to see "YOUR" son. Not his. If he should persist and continues to harrass you lay a charge against him and dont let him get away with it a second time round. If you dont stop this now, it will continue for the rest of your life. Listen to your motherly instincts and do the right thing.
2006-12-08 06:38:14 · answer #1 · answered by Vonnie S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off you are one strong person. I dont know how you went through the pregnancy knowing that it was because of a bad situation. You are one strong person like I said. As for letting him meet his son, I would not. The man abused you and took advantage of you. I think it is to late to file a report I think it has to be done within so many years, but every state is different so please go down to the police station and find out. Even if you cant file a rape report Im sure that you can do something to keep the man from your son. No one in their right mind would grant him costody or anything like that. Good luck and listen to your instincts!!
2006-12-08 08:04:58 · answer #2 · answered by angel01182 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
beings it has been so long (6 years) of the rape. you prob can file charges but it wont go no where as there is no physical evidence and comes down to his word vs yours and you would have to prove he in fact did rape you. all that there is your 6 year old son proves you and the man had intercourse. so if he files for visitation rights. he prob will get them and you will have to let him see his son.
have you had DNA test to see if he is in fact the father? not knowing the situation you might have been pregnant before the rape? I don't know if you was having sex with someone before this happened. something to think about.
but kinda weird a guy that raped someone would want to be around the person they raped? but the world is full of sick people.
good luck on your terrible situation. this should show all women to report a rape. as it can bite you later on in life again.
2006-12-08 05:30:02 · answer #3 · answered by Jecht 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you - and I don't know what the statute of limitations is on rape - it may be ten years - but it would be awfully difficult for you to prove your case six years after the fact.
Just keep your child away from the guy - get a restraining order - and if it comes up, then that's why you are getting the restraining order - because the man raped you. He should thank his lucky stars you have done nothing to this point, and that he's not in jail.
Your child will only be hurt by meeting his father, and you will only be hurt more.
Keep your child away from this guy - keep this guy away from you and your family, and get he restraining order as quickly as possible before this goes any further.
Good luck!
2006-12-08 05:15:18 · answer #4 · answered by gatesfam@swbell.net 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No Way! File a restraining order against him! And who says it's too late to file a rape report? What is the statute of limitations? I don't think it would do your son any good to know the man who raped his mother! What would you want if you were your son? & you know the guy who did this to you, your son is too young to be able to understand it all. This guy does not deserve anything from you, your son, your family or anyone else, except he deserves to be in prison and get raped there himself.
2006-12-08 05:16:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear....... I can't imagine anything more awful.
I would certainly file a rape report now. Better late than never. And even if the police can't arrest him (lack of any evidence), the report will be on file. Then consult a lawyer and file for an Order of Protection (Restraining Order) against this man. Then have your lawyer petition the courts to absolve this man of all parental rights to the child.
2006-12-08 05:16:01 · answer #6 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course not!! Maybe (and even that is a stretch!) if he was remorseful for what he did to you but he sounds like a serious psycho! And who are these crazy people who think you should allow this man to meet your child?! Just because he deposited his sperm in you after raping you doesn't mean he's a father to that child. He's got some nerve. I'd call a lwayer ASAP and find out what your rights are. Good luckand be careful but don't feel obligated to give this man any access to you or your son's lives!!
2006-12-08 06:24:18 · answer #7 · answered by Shelley L 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yikes! The man is a predator, keep him away. Rape is a crime of dominance and I think this is just another way for the guy to exert his dominance over you. I can't stand when people make those "but he should know his father" comments. I think it is appropriate to accept that no father is better than a violent rapist. Is your child's life really going to be improved with this man in it? Or is he just looking for a way to make you a victim again?
My suggestion: Tell the guy the kid isn't his.
2006-12-08 05:19:47 · answer #8 · answered by Sylvia 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would by no means have any contact with him. Call the police, and tell them the situation. You can get a restraining order. Did you know that only 1 in 10 rapes are reported...and of those only 4 out of 10 of that 10% reported are convicted??? That means only 4% of rapes are convicted...pretty disgusting.
2006-12-08 05:16:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to report the rape. Regardless of how long ago it was. You need to contact the family courts. You need to protect your son. Get an attorney if neccessary.
How does he know your son is his? Have you been in contact with him since the rape? Is he listed on the birth certificate?
Your son comes first.
I wish you the best.
2006-12-08 05:16:05 · answer #10 · answered by his temptress 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋