If a friend is going out with this guy......
and u know something that she should know....
but they love eachother..so much...
and by telling her..this could maybe just maybe...break them up!
should I tell her..???
Im not really good in being the reason for there split
2006-12-08 05:07:49 · 56 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm going to assume, for the purposes of this answer, that this secret refers to something the boy did and hasn't fessed up to.
I think you should talk to him about it. Let him know that you know and that it is tearing you up trying to decide what to do. Give him the chance to come clean with your friend and if he won't do it, you should tell her.
2006-12-08 05:10:31 · answer #1 · answered by QuestionWyrm 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
What a good friend you are to worry like this. Yes, the friend should know but how you let her know, is the tricky part.
People are so often blind to a loved ones faults, they will not believe anything bad about them. Often, the person who tells, is hated for stating the truth.
I'd be careful and just make oblique references to similar things in someone elses situation. Even if the someone else is imaginary. You might make casual statements once in a while and drop the subject. Unless your friend is as dumb as a post, she will start to examine her own situation and arrive at the correct assumption, seemingly on her own. This is when you stand by her no matter what she decides to do. She will still be your friend and you will have done what you feel needed to be done.
2006-12-08 05:19:38 · answer #2 · answered by lothespiritalker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the severity of the situation. If it's something life threatening or she may come to some harm then by all means as a good friend then it's your responsibility. Whatever it is, it will come out eventually (if it's not severe). You're kind of stuck between a rock and a hard place. If you have her best interest at hand then maybe you two should find a quiet place and talk.
2006-12-08 05:15:19 · answer #3 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are her true friend, you would tell her anything you feel she should know. Friendship is based of trust, which is based off honesty. Even they love each other so much, as you put it, you shouldn't have anything to tell her that would break them up. Obviously there was a breach in trust on his part between them and if you are aware of it, tell her. She may be upset with you for awhile, but would you rather have her upset that you were the one that told her, or have her upset and never trust you again because you didn't tell her and she finds out from someone else? You know what the right decision is, you just needed someone else to assure you. Friendship is something to value and treasure.....don't betray your friend.
2006-12-08 05:13:01 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's your friend and she finds out what you could have told her and didn't, how would you explain that to her?
If she's your friend, her happiness and safety should be important to you, because you're supposed to watch your friends' backs for them.
If he's a good guy, then he'll have an explanation for whatever it is; is he's a jerk, she's better off knowing now when it'll hurt less breaking up with him.
YOU would be the reason for the break-up (if it does happen), HE would be, but we also do have a habit of shooting the messenger. Now you know why they say 'The truth hurts'.
I wish I had a magic answer that would fix this for you, but I don't.
2006-12-08 05:15:15 · answer #5 · answered by Mitch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a tough pill to swallow. If u don't tell Ur friend and she later she find out about it, then u may loose a friend. On the other end if u tell her, she may not believe u because she Love that guy a lot and mat think Ur jealous. There gotta be somebody else telling her not U. Before it's too late
2006-12-08 05:13:32 · answer #6 · answered by Toronto boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her no matter how much it hurts. She deserves to know the truth. The pain will last for a bit but her being with a liar and deciever is not fair to her. If you were in her place wouldn't you want your friend to tell you.
Don't take it personal however she reacts to the news. People are so blinded with love they refuse to believe that thier guy/girls could be fake fraud people.
2006-12-08 05:12:09 · answer #7 · answered by ERIKA M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.. this is how i would look at it .. if she knows the thing (what ever u know) by herself in the future and which would still result in a break up no matter how much she loves him then u need to tell her what you know.
Thats your responsibility of being a good friend to her. But make sure to prepare her about what u are about to say.
Good luck!
2006-12-08 05:12:35 · answer #8 · answered by magicjaan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not going to be the reason they split (if they do) i think you have to be a GOOD FRIEND and tell her what ever that something is, if its something really bad then your friend is gonna thank you for it. Think about it, if you were in the same position as her, would you want your friend to tell you what was going on? or would you want her to keep it to her self? obviously you would like her to tell you right! go on and tell her! good luck
2006-12-08 05:14:59 · answer #9 · answered by ... 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let sleeping dogs lie. Whatever he did he probably regrets and won't do again.
Ignorance is bliss.
If you tell her she will say. Why did you tell me that. I was so happy. At the end of the day happiness is the most important.
Unless you know the dude has some STD. Then you need to tell her because it's a health risk.
2006-12-08 05:11:48 · answer #10 · answered by RED 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her. She may be furious with you at first, but when reality sinks in she will realize you are a true friend looking out for her best interests. Think about how angry she would be if she finds out another way and then finds out you knew and didn't tell her!!!
2006-12-08 05:11:28 · answer #11 · answered by mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋