I have to young children and I am young to. I'm 19 and my husband left me. I'm afriad no guys will date me because most girls my age are hot and i have strech marks and kids. Do any guys want a girl like me.
2006-12-08 05:03:59 · 30 answers · asked by angelina m 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
my sister found one. stretch marks and all.
2006-12-08 05:05:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all u cant hate yourself and take care of your children in a good manner, so u say u love your kids so u must have some love for yourself. Dont worry u will find someone .Iam 24 with 2 kids my first child i had when i was 18 yrs. I was a single parent with some strecth marks i had no problem with getting guys they see that i have a child thats why I have strech marks, guys can understand. But if one doesnt then hes a waste of your time. U need someone that will love u and your kids equally. I have a wonderful boyfriend that loves me and my daughter and hes handsome and younger. If i can find a man u can. Dont let you ex get u down forget him, your beatiful in many people eyes, maybe u should go out and have some fun with your friends look nice and you'll see how many heads will turn.Thats what every women needs sometimes to remind them that their still pretty. Your to young to feel like this its not heatlhy.lol
good luck!!!
2006-12-08 05:17:17 · answer #2 · answered by jdn85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there is a silver lining to your situation. You are young and those stretch marks will go away with a little work. Get out and run and eat right.
Now, you have two kids at the age of 19, first of all this tells you something doesn't it, and I am not being mean here, their is something called birth control. You need to use it when having any relations with any guy!.
Second, you will find someone that will adore you and those kids, but you must do as much as you can to get your head on straight, get educated and take care of the kids. Its hard, no one is denying this, but you must run the extra mile, cause another great point to look at........when your are 38/39 those kids will be out of the house and YOU will be at the peak of your life. You will be wiser, healthy and beautiful and the world will be yours!
Now, get to work, take care of yourself and those babies and for God shake do not jump into bed with a another guy WITHOUT protection,.
2006-12-08 05:11:53 · answer #3 · answered by kickinupfunf 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur problem is not having 2 kids, or lotsa baggage. when it all comes down to it, it's your Confidence and your Attitude that is going to make you "hot" to a guy. and yes, looks has to do with it, but if u Feel good about urself and think ur worth something, u will TAke Care of urself. but when u feel down in the dumps, and let things go, u are showing others that u don't feel good about urself. i don't blame u for feeling down or "dumpy"... it must be hard for u at such a young age to have all those responsibilites. but at the same time, ur lucky cuz u have ur Whole life ahead of u. u will be a Young, Hot mom while ur kids friends will be way older than you :).
so, if i were u i would just keep being the Best mom i could be, #1 priority. but close 2nd is taking care of YOU and your happiness. the happier u are about urself and ur life, with or w/o a man, the better mother, friend, daughter, and girlfriend u will be. :)
take care of urself.. ur appearance. work out, wear flattering clothes, makeup and hairstyles. know how to look good when u go out. next, work on ur Mind. that means either studying, reading ,learning, paying attention to the news or even just excelling at hobbies or your Job (this will help u to learn more at work and contribute more to your company). finally, work on ur Relationships: with ur family, friends, friends of friends, employers, coworkers, people at church or PTA meetings, etc, eventually this will help you when u meet STrangers. and remember, the prettier u look, the more Knowedge u have, the less SHY and Dumpy u will feel!
good luck dear... and remember, being a good mom also means being strong and learning how to make YOUR life Positive, Healthy and Happy and to teach that to your children. :) u will be an AWESOME catch for any man!
2006-12-08 05:10:28 · answer #4 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you have to love yourself in order for anyone to love you. So what you have stretch marks there is more to you than just the physical. If a guy only wants the physical then you shouldn't want him. You have not only yourself to live for but your kids so you want a man that will love you for you and love your kids and if a man only wants physical then he don't want anything else.
You don't need to worry about a man right now. Take this time to get yourself together and love yourself. Find things about yourself that you love and remind yourself that looks come and go but the inside what you have to give emotionally is what stays. Be the best person that you can be.
2006-12-08 05:08:23 · answer #5 · answered by trf_islandkandi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First! If you really love your kids, you need to work on your own self image, because the way you treat yourself will affect them. Don't worry about finding another guy until you realize that you deserve a decent one. Otherwise you're gonna go through asshole after asshole. Love yourself and then find someone to love. Your only 19, you have time. You and the children are the important things. Guys are a dime a dozen.
2006-12-08 05:09:10 · answer #6 · answered by Ya Ya 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes there are real men out there Not these lil boys most girls are looking for.... Give it some time and get yourself out there and you will meet someone who will love you for who you are what you have to offer not just your looks..... Good LUck an by the way the stretch marks will go away with time I know I had a son
2006-12-08 05:07:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
But you have to find him in the right place or you put your children in jeopardy.
Don't show your children the man your dating until you have a ring.
I am married to a woman who had a daughter and I ended up adopting her because of his absence & addictions. I love my wife with all her imperfections and I know my life would not be the same if it wornt for our daughter she has been a gift.
Look into a church group if you go to church.
Make sure you talk about your expectations for life before you take any guy to meet your children. I would suggest pre marital counceling.
I was a product of a devorice and I went through hell trying to deal with it and my mom would bring guys home and then they would be gone in a mater of months.
2006-12-08 05:20:18 · answer #8 · answered by Noka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in your shoes once. I was twenty with two children and my husband left. I felt alone, frightened and unwanted.
Eventually, my husband and I worked things out, and we've been married now for 16 years.
However, I just want to say this:
A good man will not be concerned about superficial things like stretch marks. Once he gets to know who you really are, he will see your kids as an asset, not a liability. The kind of man you want will see your beauty, inside and out. He will know your worth, and he will value you AND your kids.
While you take care of your little ones, be sure to take time for YOU. Get plenty of rest, reach out to friends and family for help, and don't underestimate the power of prayer. Don't allow yourself to get overwhelmed. Loving yourself means taking time to make YOU a priority.
I will say a prayer for you and your kids, that you will be comforted during this sad time in your life. It will get better.
Blessings,
JustanAngel
2006-12-08 05:13:31 · answer #9 · answered by justanangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you set realistic expectations. Your days of marrying a club hottie are past.
However if you are honest about what is best for you and your children, try looking for an intelligent, kind, young single dad. You would have something in common and share similar values.
Trying to date single guys will be tough because you are asking them to be #2 to your children and step into a lot of responsibility they didn't ask for.
2006-12-08 05:08:17 · answer #10 · answered by Wyleeguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
~You must be shallow to be worried about stretch marks, who cares? You married and had kids too young and now you know-spread the word to your friends.
You don't NEED a man in your life all the time.
Why not wait a year after your divorce is final to start a relationship? Give yourself time to heal.~
2006-12-08 05:09:24 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋