we dated, I became pregnant, he left me, i assume my son, 7 years later .... the father still refuse to meet his son, ( even refuse to see pictures) he is still single, and no other kids ..... What is happening inside a 30 years old man head? How can it be possible a man refuse to see his own flesh and blood ? ( dna testing done)
2006-12-08 05:01:09 · 15 answers · asked by CyberMum 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Put him out of your mind. He is completely worthless. Make it your business to give your son a happy childhood, and raise him to be a good, considerate, hard-working person.
2006-12-08 05:07:33 · answer #1 · answered by Thia 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh God, he sounds like a p***k!!! Men like him never grow up!!! He is probably petrified to take on responsibility for your son and other people. The fact that he is 30 and sill single means that he may have serious problems making bonds with people. He certainly is an egoist and it stems from his fear of commitment, responsibility. What else would that be??? Sometimes when I hear stories about babies left in the bins or abandoned somewhere, I believe that animals look after their offspring better than some people.
He is a double idiot - he left you when you were pregnant and he doesn't even want to look at his son. You know this type of a guy is a mixture of both a coward and an egoist!!!
2006-12-08 13:12:11 · answer #2 · answered by May 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I couldn't guess what is going on inside the moron's head, however, I can certainly say that your son is DEFINITELY better off not getting to meet his biological father.
There could be dozens of reasons (immature, afraid to because he might have to admit his mistake of leaving you when you were pregnant, etc)....but in the grand scheme of things, you should ask yourself this:
"Do I want MY son to meet his father, who is a real jack@ss!!" (and I would surmise the answer would be no).
My experience is on the other end of the scope. I got a girl pregnant, and DID marry her, and our daughter is a total joy in my life (even though my wife sometimes is not ;) )
2006-12-08 13:18:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
because he is scared....he's not scared to see him, he's scared of responsibility, he does not want a child in his life...he's making that quite clear by being absent...my ex his now 45 and last saw his 3 sons when my youngest was 1 year old....my youngest is now 17...so stopped contacting them when i left him, he has missed out on so much and has a little grandson from my eldest son who is 22....don't bother your ex any more, it's clear that he has no heart...and is very selfish...as long as you raise your child well then your child will grow up with respect for you, and no doubt, he loves you anyways....your ex will never be the father that you would like him to be for your son, so just leave the selfish little toe rag to his own devices and get on with your life, he will end up a very lonely old man in years to come....you don't need him....try to explain to your son that you and his father fell out of friends and that he cannot be contacted...be gentle with your boy...don't put any bad thoughts into his head at that age...just tell him that he has his mum and that's all that matters right now....as long as he is happy then just forget his father ever existed...because that's what he's doing with his son...his loss sweetheart...he's the one who's missing out here
2006-12-08 13:19:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He only looks at sex as a pleasure ride not that it actually has a true purpose under GOD. I think he is affraid of his own DNA. dont give up hope hell grow up and maybe never able to provide a child to his future wife then what will he do.If he never comes around its his lose not the childs raise your child, dont let this be his downfall. for 30 he sounds quite immature. thats not good for your child. move on and dont push.
2006-12-08 13:25:51 · answer #5 · answered by Wendellp 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your son will ask questions about his Dad as he gets older, I had no contact with my Dad, until it was too late and I was at his funeral as a teenager. It hits me harder now, as an adult. Your Son needs contact with his Dad, believe me. I don't know why they don't want contact with their children, it's just the worst feeling in the world to be rejected by your own Dad. Been there done it, doesn't do you any favours as an adult, it just gets worst.
2006-12-08 15:58:37 · answer #6 · answered by bottywot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I don´t think men are really men until they become 35+ . He must still like is freedom, It´s sad really that ,he want´s no contact with your son,is son. and that he give´s no good reason. I would´t give up, ask him again in another 5 year´s time. he might just have grown up by then ,good luck
2006-12-08 13:59:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's has regreat and and the fact that he has a son hasn't clicked in his head, how was his upbringing with his own father? Maybe theres past and present issues he has to deal with, and he probally doesn't want to have to explain his behavior and be judged by it.
2006-12-08 15:41:09 · answer #8 · answered by rashell w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im n the same situation, my daughter's dad is 30, my daughter is 11. He talked to her for a few weeks and now because of his wife he won't have anything to do with her. I don't have any answers but i can sympathize. It's tough but you've come this far without him.
2006-12-08 13:05:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably is too immature himself to want to believe that he is really a dad. If he did he would also have to admit that he is a grown up. Some guys never admit to that.
2006-12-08 13:50:39 · answer #10 · answered by Nails 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋