hey my bf jus asked me to marry him but im only 14 but i do love him with all my heart.....& i might b preg. by him & yes he knows that i might b & he's happy cause "he wants this baby". what should i do im so confused???
2006-12-08 04:59:07 · 10 answers · asked by ~Baby Girl!!~ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go to the doctor for a blood test to determine if you are pregnant or not. You are only 14. There is way more to life ahead of you that you won't know until you do it.
Good luck and God Bless.
2006-12-08 05:01:22 · answer #1 · answered by Deana S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well- do this- don't ginve him an answe yet because you're not certaint aht you are prenant. Go to you r local doctors office with a friend and find out if you're pregnant. If you are- you need to sit down and tell your parents what's going on and that your bf has the intetions on marrying you. I wouldn't get married if i were pregnat if i were you. THat;s the problem with people nowadays-t hey ahve unprotected sex and get pregnant and theng et married. I'm not insutling you or anything but- i'm telling you from experience- i was 18 when i got pregnant and my baby''s dad family wanted to force us to get married but he didnt' want to. THank God he didn't want to because he was a jerk and messing aroudn behind my back while i was pregnant. Don't get married jsut because you're pregnant./ Get married because you feel ready for it or because this is the only guy you want to spend the rest of your life with. You are too young to know if he's right or not for all i know he's probably your first. So- get a prenancy test- if you're not pregnant- don't get married. IF you are pregnant- move in together. IF things go ok and he's able to get a job to help you for the things the baby will need- get married. About 65-70% of people that get married confess they only did it because they were expecting a baby. More than half of that ammount of people end up separating or getting divorced due to differences and lack of money. Think about it because since you're big enough to have sex with guys now- you should be big enough to accept your responsibility and work & take care of your child (if there is one)
2006-12-08 13:08:53 · answer #2 · answered by Ms.Budonkadonk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, I know that you are going through a very difficult time. And I understand that you are scared and confused. I would like you to talk to your parents...I have a 16 year old daughter and I would want her to be able to tell me...Yes, I might freak out and be upset, sad and disappointed, but I will still and always will lover her no matter what, that is what parents are for. Marrying a guy just becuase you are pregnant or might be is not the answer, and many of those marriages do not last and only cause more hurt and pain...2 wrongs do not make a right...I urge you to talk to your parents. or even a school counselor to help you talk to your parents...and if you are pregnant, please see a doctor...
Good Luck Sweetie and I hope and pray that everything works out for you!
2006-12-08 13:08:52 · answer #3 · answered by Mechelle C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are only 14 years old, you still have your whole life ahead of you. I wouldnt get married at such a young age. Go and find out if you really are preggy and if you are have the child. But put the child up for adoption or have a family memeber who can take care of the baby because you are so young and you need to get a good education so you can get a good job so you can susport your family. You dont want to have to work so hard with no high school degree or a college degree because all you can get are low wage jobs and that isnt enough to raise a family with. You might think hey parents can help me out but yes they can help you out but they arent always going to be there and one day your going to be on your own. You need to get your education she you and get the needs for for your child. I wish you the best of luck girly
2006-12-08 13:05:55 · answer #4 · answered by The_Morbid_One 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all...you are 14. You don't even need to be thinking about having a baby or getting married. I mean if you are pregnant then you should keep it because you are the one that thought you were responsible enough to have sex so you should take the responsibility and raise the child. How old is your boyfriend? And how do you think that he is going to be able to support you and the child. You are 14. Just because you get pregnant doesn't mean that you have to get married. Please think about it long and hard before you make any decision.
2006-12-08 13:03:10 · answer #5 · answered by Boo8081 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Slow down. Find out if you are pregnant (get a home pregnancy test). In most states, you cannot get married until you are 16 w/ parental permission. If you are pregnant, you need to follow your heart. If you are not, I would not get engaged and definately get on birth control. You can get it for free at planned parenthood or the county clinic (which is normally close to the courthouse). If you have a baby so young, you are guarenteed to struggle and miss out on normal teen activities (going to football games, spring break, partying on your 21st, etc.). Only you can decide what to do... good luck.
2006-12-08 13:13:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are too young to even let those thoughts enter your head... I was a young mother. I am 30 now, and even until up to about 2 years ago I was not ready, you have your whole life ahead of you. I hope that you are not pregnate... if you are you should consider adoption, I did it was the best thing in the world... email if you need help and really need someone to talk to... just remember you are so young and it takes a long time to grow up I am 30 now and still working on it. i tell everyone not to even get into a serious relationship or think about marriage until after you are 27/28 years old... trust me I learned this in all my years
2006-12-08 13:05:13 · answer #7 · answered by HappyGoLucky 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old is your boyfriend? 14 is WAY to young to seriously be considering marriage. And in terms of a potential pregnancy, contact your local Planned Parenthood for a test and support.
2006-12-08 13:02:21 · answer #8 · answered by Kimberly H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u r way 2 young 4 this. i pray that u r not preg. if ur not stop utting urself n that kind of situation and tell ur bf no u r 2 young
2006-12-08 13:02:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like an episode for Jerry Springer.
2006-12-08 13:04:18 · answer #10 · answered by 35 goodlookinmalefrombalt 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋