I tell him time and time again but he still believes I want to go back to my ex. I do everything I can to show him he's the one for me. And I feel like he doesn't understand or believe what I tell him.
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2006-12-08 04:55:32 · 28 answers · asked by April A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's insecure and refuses to believe you. That's HIS issue to resolve, not yours. If he can't overcome his fears and doubts, and raise his self-esteem, he may not be right for you.
2006-12-08 04:56:59 · answer #1 · answered by kja63 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'd say if you have to keep trying to get him to understand that you love him, then it's not going to work. Anyone can be the "one" but if you have set backs like this, than you should feel some where that you deserve better. On the other hand, maybe he's had a bad past experience with girlfriends. And maybe he has a hard time dealing with trust, and probably doesn't believe in love too much the same way you do. Talk to him about that. Get to know what it is that would make him love a woman, and if it's not what you want to hear, just let him go and be his friend at least.
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2006-12-08 04:59:58 · answer #2 · answered by krazy_libra_from_ac 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How exactly does this thing work … he cannot understand you at all and he loves you??? How is that possible as by thousands and thousands of people who try to define LOVE (an impossible task I know that but they still have tried) they all say that you understand and love but he cant understand what does he loves?????????????????? This just means he has a physical attraction towards you and he and you both are confusing that for love. The moment you start having sex with him this will go from bad to worse and then very soon very very soon he will dump you … I know I am sorry if I have hurted your feelings but this is the truth, youngsters today are not opening their eyes to the facts and are just blindly believing anything they hear or see. This is not love, this is just sexual attraction he has on you … NOTHING MORE … drop this relationship like a hot potato … when its hot it will burn your hand and after it cools down it will spoil it
2016-03-28 23:21:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa whoa whoa, first of all you can not convince any1 you love them! Your boyfriend has his own insecurities and that has nothing to do with you! I can see if he felt like that and you were talking to your ex every day- then you can do something by not talking so regularly with your ex! But if you are not doing anything that causes him to feel that way then it's out of your control! Your boyfriend has to deal with this on his own. You can occasionally reassure him that you don't plan on returning to your ex and that you love him. But by trying to prove to him and doing all this extra will only do the reverse and make him continue to believe that you are trying to make up for something you feel guilty about. What I suggest is that you begin to act normal and when he brings up your ex simply say "he's not an issue in my life any more and I'd rather us talk about something else" then change the subject. Every time he brings up your ex re-assure and quickly change the subject. Your boyfriend may be using your ex to keep you in line or to get you to do all this extra because every1 loves attention and if he gets a lot of it when he brings up your ex then he will keep doing it. Your relationship is suppose to be based on trust so ask him if he can't trust you then y is he with you? Don't be afraid to lose him because it's not fun, I'm sure, to be doing all this EXTRA to prove to him that u don't want ur ex. Talk it out and move past this issue b/c u should be enjoying your relationship not working so hard!
2006-12-08 05:09:44 · answer #4 · answered by moks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know I've found that in matters of the heart men and women process things very differently.. As the saying goes "Actions speak louder than words. Ask yourself what am I doing to make him feel as if there is still something between you and your ex.
Once you determined what that is sit down and have a heart to heart talk with you boyfriend and ask him to be totally honest about how he feels. You may find that he is caring some trust issues from another relationship and that could be what is hindering him from letting go of "your" past relationship with the ex.
2006-12-08 05:08:07 · answer #5 · answered by J P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is very insecure. Instead of telling him why you love him the next time he mentions anything about your ex, tell your current boyfriend why you wouldn't want to go back to him. Talk about all the bad stuff regarding the guy then talk about how good he (the boyfriend) is. It may increase your boyfriend's ego a bit.
2006-12-08 05:01:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
stop sleeping with your ex... just kidding.
This seems more like an issue he has with himself then an issue with you... unless you are doing something to make him jealous?
He may have had an ex cheat on him or he may just be insecure. You should hash this out with him because problems like this only grow stronger over time, and talking it out may even bring you guys a little closer.
2006-12-08 05:02:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just wants the attention and reassurance he gets by hearing you repeatedly say you want only him. He is insecure. Don't feed his insecurity by telling him all the time. Simply tell him if he doesn't know by now then maybe he should move on.
2006-12-08 05:01:15 · answer #8 · answered by Matt C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you show him that, remember, actions speak louder than words! Why don't you do nice things for him, cook him diner, get a movie and watch it together, maybe give him a foot massage after a long day. Or maybe, just something as simple as a quick email, " just wanted to say that I miss you" would work!
2006-12-08 05:01:24 · answer #9 · answered by wantstoknow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, he is insecure and that is something that he needs to deal. You cannot make anyone believe you love them. They either feel it or they don't. If your doing everything you can and suppose to then he needs to get over the insecurity or move on.
2006-12-08 05:05:00 · answer #10 · answered by trf_islandkandi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he has some problems of insecurity within himself that he needs to deal with before he persues a relationship with you. If you have done nothing for him to question your love and faithfulness than the problem is not with you, its with him.
2006-12-08 04:58:31 · answer #11 · answered by superbad~honeydip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋