I am 40 yrs old, my fiance and I are getting married in march, but I just found out that I am also pregnant, how do I break the new to my father and relatives they are pretty conservative.
2006-12-08 04:54:10 · 32 answers · asked by jinky l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Don't tell them. In Christmas cards, make a little ribbon with boy or girl on it and attach it to the card. This way you're not nervous and they've had some time to cool down before you see them.
2006-12-08 04:56:47 · answer #1 · answered by Rebecca M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being that you are 40, I would assume that you are very capable of making your own decisions. What is the worst that could happen? Imagine being 21, getting married and then getting pregnant and when you share the news with your father, he disowns you due to stupidity on his part. That was my case. I was already married and the worst thing that could happen did. Guess what though, I got over it and understood that it was his ignorance and not mine. More than likely your father is going to understand. Your family may be conservative but I am sure they have been wondering when you would give them a grandchild. Knowing that you are getting married to the father of your child should make it better for them to accept. If they are that conserative they will understand that only God can judge and should be happy to share the good news with you. As far as how to tell him, just tell him. Don't hint around at it or beat around the bush, just say Dad, I am pregnant, I hope you can be as happy for us as we are.
2006-12-08 05:08:52 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl come on you're 40 years old! Your family has to understand that you are big enough to do what you want. I think you and you're fiance should talk to your family and tell them the grate news! I'm sure they're gonna be pretty happy about the new baby!
2006-12-08 04:58:59 · answer #3 · answered by ... 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're 40! They'll get over it, frankly.
No offense at all, but 40 is in the age range of "it's now or never." Be thrilled, and don't let worrying about your conservative family dampen your joy. Congrats!
2006-12-08 15:31:47 · answer #4 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A couple of ideas...
1) Don't tell them. You'll be what...4 months pregnant at your wedding? Depending on how you carry, it may not be visible. Then afterwards, you can always have one of those "early" deliveries... or tell them after you're already married and then it will be easier to take.
2) Don't "break" the news - announce the wonderful news that they're going to be grandparents!
2006-12-08 05:00:51 · answer #5 · answered by T 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel like no one has ever told you that your life is about you and your feelings and not about what those around you might think of your decisions. So my thought is this: Don't tell anyone until you are happy and ready to do so. It’s nobody's business really except you and your fiancé. It will become obvious eventually but you still don't need to bring it up. They can if they need to, but remember, how they feel is their concern. You can't ever control other peoples’ feelings, so just work on your own. At a time like this, with so many exciting and perhaps overwhelming things happening, you should be taking care of you and your soon-to-be hubby and soon-to-be child. Let everyone else worry about themselves. Another way to think of it, give them to opportunity to act like real grown-ups. The best of luck to you!!!
PS If you do decide to tell them, do it a way that YOU are comfortable with, like through the mail, but always remember, you don't have to carry the weight of their reactions, just let that part go.
2006-12-08 05:19:48 · answer #6 · answered by M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my husband and I went and got married on our own when I started getting really awful morning sickness, so I didn't have to deal with the relatives. If you're not experiencing any symptoms or showing, do what I did, and tell them after your married. Not much to say after that.
2006-12-08 05:22:38 · answer #7 · answered by Mama Teddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would just tell them. After all, you are a 40 year old adult who can make her own decisions.
Unless this is your first marriage, then the "try before you buy" policy in always best, and hey, birth control is not 100% effective.
If this is your first marriage, then I don't know what to tell you.
2006-12-08 04:59:49 · answer #8 · answered by Goyo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are 40 years old and you are going to be getting married. Just tell them that you love them and that they are going to be grandparents a little sooner then expected. You are your own women, it is not like you are 17 years old telling your parents you are with child. So what if they are a little upset, you have baring their grandchild they should be proud
2006-12-08 04:58:41 · answer #9 · answered by The_Morbid_One 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are 40!!! You are old enough to get married, divorced, have kids, abortions, affairs and everything in between.... GROW UP!! Sit your dad down and tell him you are pregnant and getting married, what's the big deal, does he think you are still a virgin???
2006-12-08 04:59:44 · answer #10 · answered by marisanj 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋