If I dont work money is tight. The pay is extremely good. I know my kids are taken care of but I feel like they will resent me later..but I can not work either.. WHat should I do?
2006-12-08 04:52:35 · 9 answers · asked by Nia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you are doing the right thing which is to provide food and shelter for you kids. it shows how much you love them. but don't forget to spend time with them when the opportunity arises
2006-12-08 04:55:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
They WILL RESENT YOU! and as a result they will learn how to cope with out you. Unless they learn to understand what you are trying to do for them. But Children aren't always that reasonable and may not be able to understand, I certainly don't blame then and I am an adult. Sure we want our kids to HAVE THE BEST of everything. But as you can see from our current society that it's NOT ALWAYS A GOOD THING. Kids have allot of STUFF these days, and grown ups have allot of DEBT! Kids don't need STUFF they need love and guidance. Not a PS III. Kids are so spoiled these days because parents feel the guilt of working all day and being to tired to spend time with them. This is really bad because I see allot of kids who grow to become kid/adults that can't cope with the simplest tasks of daily life, there seems to be NO RESPECT FOR OTHERS, NO MORALS, AND NO SELF ESTEEM left these days. Try and get a job with better hours and even if the money is tight, Make that a value to teach your kids. How to save and only spend on the necessities of life. But the togetherness you have with them is what is important.
2006-12-08 13:12:13 · answer #2 · answered by SecretFriend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did u become a parent if u cant be with them. They will never get to know u and will resent u. U should of been financially secure first
2006-12-08 19:16:54 · answer #3 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to rethink your position. It's important to consider your kids emotional needs as well. You're certainly thinking about their physical needs but later on down the line, when they grow up, they will wonder, "why didn't mom spend more time with us?" As adults they will understand the financial aspect but they will also more than likely think you thought more of your job than you did them.
These are issues that could possibly affect their ENTIRE lives.
My mother did not have the kind of job you do as far as travelling but she was gone a lot for work--having long hours--and when she got home, she was tired.
As a child, that hurt me. I wondered, "why won't my mommy play cards with me?"
Think about that. It's important!!
Their relationship with you affects their relationship with EVERYbody else they encounter in their lives.
2006-12-08 13:18:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i have two small children i work did you not take this in to concideration when you gave birth to them i think you should give you parents a break!! you should find a job where you can be a mother to your children money isnt everything
2006-12-08 13:08:40 · answer #5 · answered by KELLY F 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay if you have three young ones and you have a job working so where and your parents are taking care of them yes you are doing a good job.
2006-12-08 13:14:25 · answer #6 · answered by Mz.Sexy Key-Key504Chick 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sometimes working alot doesn't make up for the time seeing them grow. they are only young once, you want to share those moments with them. there are always going to be jobs but your babies are only going to be young once and they need to know who their mother is and do mother things with them.
2006-12-08 13:02:12 · answer #7 · answered by ERIKA M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to them. They'll understand. When you get off work spend as much time as you can with them.
2006-12-08 12:57:59 · answer #8 · answered by JASNJ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are doing the right thing. Just make sure that when you are with them, you really are 'with' them.
2006-12-08 12:58:33 · answer #9 · answered by Wundt 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋