I recently broke up with my boyfriend for a lot of different reasons. We were together for a little over a year. At one point he was very controlling, then he relaxed a little; and he's verbally abusive when he gets upset at me. We fought all the time, and I felt that I couldn't trust him because he has lied to me quite often; I find out but don't face him with it, because the one and only time I did, he denied it at first, then apologized, and talked me into staying. Since I broke up with him, he has been still calling me and says he wants to stay friends, and enjoys doing things with me, and he still loves me, and that he's not the one who broke up, and that if he wanted to break up with me, he would have. But, he's telling all his friends that I'm the one that keeps calling him, and he cut me loose because I wanted to get married and he didn't because my kids are so screwed up. What is it that he wants from me if this is what he's telling his friends?
2006-12-08 04:52:08 · 3 answers · asked by southern belle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well one thing for sure you hurt his ego when you broke up with him that's why he's coming back at you..he cant accept that you did that on him that's why he is trying to stab you behind your back by telling lies and damaging your reputation as well..I can say your boyfriend is kiss and tell guy..all he wants is to get even or revenge at you..you did the right choice in dumping him.
2006-12-08 05:26:41 · answer #1 · answered by Bert M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the guy has a serious ego problem. What he appears to want is to get you back on his terms and to save face with his friends. You are probably better off with out him. I would tell him honestly that his lying to his friends is unfair and that you cannot be friends with him unless he wants an honest mature relationship without manipulation or deception. If you want to be friends with him lay down some ground rules. If not Good Riddance.
2006-12-08 05:00:10 · answer #2 · answered by norwegianblue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants it both ways. He wants the relationship with you but he doesn't want to do anything about it so he tells his friends this stuff so if/when you two call it quits, he can say he saw it coming. Rather immature. I'd say he's not ready for a relationship with you or anyone.
2006-12-08 05:01:33 · answer #3 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋