LADIES' ANSWERS ONLY: Ladies, I would like you to tell your story about a relationship that you've had w/a bf that was abusive. I want to know when you knew he was abusive, why you put up with it as long as you did, and how you gathered the courage to leave.
2006-12-08 04:46:57 · 8 answers · asked by g13player 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes! I was with my fiance for 5yrs on and off.. In between those times we would fist fight and he would call me names. I put up with it until I started dating someone else while I was still with my abusive man. I finally fessed up and told him I was leaving.....He got the hunting knife out and cut my fore arm wide open down to the bone. He drove me to the hospital and begged for me not to tell he did it. I agreed, only if he would let me leave! Two weeks later, I found out I was pregnant.......
2006-12-08 05:28:12 · answer #1 · answered by charliesangel5554 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was with my bf for two and a half years. The first year... was awesome! He treated me like a princess, and told me things that a girl would die to hear! Then he started going out with his friends A LOT! At first he would stay out until about 11 or 12 o clock, then it turned into 3 4 or 5 in the morning. He didn't work so he could party all the time at that point. Then the mental abuse started. He would make it seem like it was my fault that he was staying out late. Then he started acusing me of cheating on him. which leads me to believe he was cheating on me. Then after about 2 years of being together, he started to fight with me constant and if I tried to leave the room he would grab me and throw me back. Then he choked me two times, until I was able to open my eyes and get the hell out of there. I moved 300 miles away, because the times before when I would leave him. He would always find a way back. Mostly I was scared to leave him, and I did love him. Plus he told me that if I was ever with anyone else... he would kill me. So I didn't want to be alone.
2006-12-08 04:55:24 · answer #2 · answered by Nikki 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I didn't find out that my bf was abusive until our wedding night when he pushed me around. It took me approximately a whole year and a half putting up with this BS to leave. It wasn't until I saw him shaking my 3 month old daughter that I realized I needed to leave his sorry @**. The feelings of motherhood and protection I had for my daughter were my courage, she is the reason I left, I didn't want her growing up in a home where she watched her mother get beat on, and I most certainly didn't want her growing up being an abused child.
2006-12-08 04:51:30 · answer #3 · answered by Nails 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, where should I begin, I really didn't know until after a year in, and after we moved in together. It started pretty minor, but only grew to be worse. It's almost like they start out slow to see what you will tolerate and work their way up, to where you feel trapped and hopeless. I guess I put up with it for nearly 5 years because he wasn't always such a monster, it was mostly the alcohol, and I didn't want to give up on the good part of him. I felt like if I left him I would have no-one and because I loved him and wanted to try to help him. I guess what finally woke me up was that I couldn't stand the abuse that my son was also enduring and what our volatile relationship was doing to our daughter and my son. I realized that if I didn't get out that in the least my son would learn to treat women that way and that my daughter would learn that men are allowed to treat women that way, but worst of all I was afraid that the next fight might be the last one forever, because he might kill me the next time and I couldn't bear to leave my children without a mother. So I got out and never looked back and my children are better because of my decision, and I must report that I am now with a man that loves me and treats me and my children as we should be treated.
2006-12-08 05:07:18 · answer #4 · answered by maggiemae 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
years ago i was in an abusive relationship. I stayed because the abuser had me believing that I was no good, it was always my fault when the abuse happened and that no one else would want or love me. I finally found Abused Women's Advocacy Project and they turned my life around. I was not to blame for the abuse and I rebuilt my self esteem. You can spot red flags; controling, not wanting you to see your friends, not wanting you talking on the phone, bringing down your self esteem by calling you names. Admitting the abuse is happening and being able to talk to someone about it, helps give you the courage you need to leave, not to mention the help of family and friends.
2006-12-08 04:55:22 · answer #5 · answered by Shining Star 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well was with a guy for 4 yrs 8 months durin which he thought he would hit me and call me names, i would fight back but dient leave at the time. on time i had had enough and threw a knife at him with the intent to commit harm, it stuck him in the foot thru the floor and someone called the police n removed him, i then moved far away ..last i heard he got gutted but lived then was in a stand off with police for beatin his woman with a hammer and threatnin to kill his neighbors for not buyn a stolen air conditionar for drugs. so i guess he is still alive. not my problem
2006-12-08 05:06:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing to tell....I super glued his dick to his stomach and now were not together anymore!
2006-12-08 04:49:15 · answer #7 · answered by Karen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would never stay in a relationship like that...pure and simple
2006-12-08 04:49:06 · answer #8 · answered by Tek ~aka~Legs! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋