I live in washington and my sons dad lives in arkansas.. hes been there since month two of my pregnancy. His wife claims he and she want to get joint custody of my son. (now five months old) He hasnt sent one thing to us, nor seen his son. My bro offered to fly him here for the birth but he didnt take us up on it. How long does it have to be before I can claim child abandonment on him.. and what does that do exactly? I just dont want people messing with my family.. Him and I are the happiest and I like him that way, and she was crazy wishing me to miscarry and stuff when I was pregnant. I dont want her near my son. Anyone know what I can do. I want him and my sons sisters to be able to see him but just not her til I can be sure she wont harm him out of jealousy. He is healthy (28in and 17lb5oz @ 5 months) and happy and I think if he went there then he would be treated differently than here.
plus theyre poor and can barely care for the 2 kids they have.
2006-12-08 04:33:17 · 7 answers · asked by Bonnie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
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2006-12-08 04:33:40 · update #1
They got married October 27th 2006.... about 11months after he went back.
2006-12-09 02:19:07 · update #2
1) HE WAS NOT MARRIED WHEN I WAS WITH HIM....
2) He has not sent a THING to us yet...
3) He told me he didnt feel a bond with Christopher (our son)
4) He lives 2000 miles away.
5) He got her pregnant as soon as he left me to go back there.
6) He tells me he will kill any guy who "tries to be Chris' daddy"
2006-12-09 02:26:32 · update #3
-----i should also probably tell you all he is turning 22 in a week so hes almost 2yrs younger than me.
2006-12-09 02:30:45 · update #4
Oh, did you have an affair with a married man? If he was married and you had his child and she is willing to take on a child who was conceived during an affair then she must be a great person and a very forgiving one at that. Oh and joint custody can mean lots of things, and he will still have to pay child support.
2006-12-08 04:47:55 · answer #1 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW, Was he married when yo were sleeping together? I am not sure about how long it takes to report child abandonment if you are even able to. You will have to call your local clerk of courts or go to the police station and ask. If he didn't sign the birth certificate as being his child then I really don't think he and his wife can get joint custody but that will also have to go to court. She is probably saying that because if you get joint custody he won't have to pay child support. That is the only thing she is worried about since the can't afford to take care of their other kids. She is probably hurt that he slept with another woman and got her pregnant and jealous that the baby is a boy and she had girls ( she is jealous because she couldn't give him a boy). There is a serious issue her and it needs to get resolved before it gets ugly. The baby is going to get stuck in the middle and I would hate for that to happen. The baby is what is most important.
2006-12-08 04:47:06 · answer #2 · answered by Karen A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well here what I know and I hope that it helps..If his name is on the birth certificate he has a right to get joint custody.. if it is not on there then he has no right to visitation of the child... here are what the courts look at for joint custody1. The parties have agreed to such provisions and the agreement was knowingly and voluntarily entered into; or
2. The parties have a satisfactory history of cooperation and shared performance of parenting functions; the parties are available to each other, especially in geographic proximity, to the extent necessary to ensure their ability to share performance of the parenting functions; and the provisions are in the best interests of the child.
As for abandonment you can file it and he will just lose all rights to his child if the court sees fit to do so... so your best bet is get a lawyer and seek sull custody
2006-12-08 04:56:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, Underage ingesting isn't allowed right here in Washington. you are going to be 21 and up. If an person is caught throwing a celebration with alcohol in it they are going to be heavily fined. And if caught too many circumstances, will pass to reformatory.
2016-10-17 23:50:36 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
check with free-low cost legal services. goggle for list in your area. Get your bro. to help you financially if necessary. Get a court order to make him pay child support, WA state is notorious for going after knothead fathers to pay up or get wages garnished, go to jail, etc...
Keep the situation from turning in to a "Jerry Springer Special!"
2006-12-08 04:53:32 · answer #5 · answered by logicalanswer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
female lose ties with him, besides why did you mess with a married man? raise your son on your own and find a man who will be there for you and your son and not play head games
2006-12-08 05:17:13 · answer #6 · answered by goodlookin.mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my God this is the pretiest baby i have seen so far. make me wanna have a baby now. sorry that i could not help you but you might wanna talk to a familly lawyer. good luck
2006-12-08 04:39:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋